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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hi @eth, wanted to let you know as soon as I got home that your efforts this morning did help me get in the shower and out the door for my excursion. I ended up having pedicure (first time ever, very relaxing and nice) and a $10 hair trim in the shop next door (I'd been told about how cheap this was too and thought I'd try it out, results are fine). I walked around a fair bit down there, at least a kilometre or so. I was pretty exhausted physically and it was a struggle, so came home a bit sooner than anticipated. Glad I went out though. Thank you for your help in getting there!

Also want to let @Former-Member know too that I have 'rubber duckied' today. Hope you are going well, Niqua. Thinking of you, with love.

Hope your day is going okay too, @Teej, and @Former-Member, who I sensed was around here earlier. And sending good cheer to everyone else too for the rest of the day.

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thank you @Mazarita

how are you feeling at the moment?

I have been gradually slipping.....there have been strong winds here on and off for quite a while

that is the one type of weather I do not like.....

it seems to get inside me and upset my rhythm

it makes me edgy and irritable I am sure

it also stops me walking....I haven't been for quite a few days and that makes me irritable too

so I am very on edge....my poor husband

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@Former-Member, my mother is emotionally affected by strong wind too and it often stops me from going out walking as well. I know the feeling of getting edgy and irritable from spending too much time indoors, not having any release for physical energy. I experience that a fair bit, for various reasons. But even just one small trip out in the day improves my mood for the rest of it. Hope the wind eases very soon so you can get back out again.

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thanks @Mazarita

I hope that the days are being kinder to you

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Today has been better, @Former-Member, though still very low physical energy. Glad to feel the sun though and the sense of having done something in the day. Looks like we will be visiting friend around the corner for dinner when C gets home. So pretty good day overall, despite the tireds lingering.

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Good evening (from here) to everyone...

Hi @eth... [waves cheerily] Oooooh... writer's homework... sounds like the fun I've been doing with the local writers club that I joined a few months back... I've been enjoying our monthly meetings greatly, and am slowly getting to know all the people, from el presidente down... hahaha...

They nominated me secretary of the writers group, and I decided "Heck! Why not?"

So now I do the monthly meeting minutes (mumble mumble), send a few emails back and forth, and sit up at the front with the rest of the committee members when it's meeting time (sometimes wishing I'd brought my Guy Fawkes mask along)... hahaha...

It's great fun, and they're an awesome bunch of creative and clever people... I am in awe of all I have read of their work... we love our monthly homework... 500-word maximum, usually in different genres, styles or about a certain inspiring or interesting topic... then we read them out and have a bit of fun chatting about it, with comments back and forth... it's a wonderfully warm, "safe" and inviting environment from which to be exploring one's interests in the written word...

I love the process of writing, and of artistic creation of all types in general... it is all creative and amazing stuff, once you learn to not be blind to it... there is beauty everywhere, and all of it is art... this is the secret of life, good people, and it is indeed a very simple thing... we ultimately control how we see (and shape) the world around us... I see now that there is art everywhere... all of us, all of our surroundings... art and beauty and creativity everywhere...

Listen to me... sounding like an old-school hippy... hahaha... mayhap I shouldn't live in the green triangle, as it were...

But getting back to the point... my, how beautiful the world is, once you open your eyes to the fact that art and beauty is everywhere...

My Lovely Partner... put simply, she does the cooking and food preparation. But there is a complexity, a beauty, a joyous art of creating and love behind all that she achieves in that kitchen. I am in awe of it. I delight in the bounties of it. I feel to be a very very lucky man indeed. I wonder that I am not a larger man, considering the delicious nature of the delights of aromas, sights, tastes and textures that are concocted by this loving artist... hahaha...

I help where I can, but I profess that I am a bit of a Muppet around the kitchen. It is not one of my "core strengths", if you will. With my hypermobile fingers and wrists, slicing and dicing and peeling and other repetitive tasks can result in dumb soft-tissue injuries (mostly strains and over-extensions) that take months of (alas painful) recovery. I don't rely on any pain medication, as aspirin or other over-the-counter pain meds do absolutely nothing for me. It's as if I am immune to them totally. So I never take them.

Natural remedies can do wonders...

I like ginger, btw... and cinnamon... both great for getting the blood going... I believe the ginger helps with inflammation or some such thing, I just know when my body says "I like this, it is good for me", and I tend to trust that... hahaha...

There's something about ginger tea...

Oooh... and mint tea...

When I visited Morocco, I fell in love with what one of my guides called "Moroccan Whiskey"... being Muslim, most places outside the wicked interesting chaotic city of Tangier were alcohol free zones... in Tangier... well, anything went... William Seward Burroughs spent much time on serious drugs, doing some rather "interesting" things there... much of the chaos of Naked Lunch, inspired by that place... hahaha... but Moroccan Whiskey was great... it was alcohol free... super-hot super-sweet black tea, served in a see-through glass with a huge bouquet of fresh mint shoved in for good measure... looked just the colour of whiskey... tasted amazing... ahhh, there was art in that...

I spent hours in those tea houses, watching the world go by... seeing the mule-trains be loaded with crates of soft-drinks for the inner cities, where ancient defences were in the form of narrow winding streets that would not allow anything as big as a car in...

Now, I am growing my own mint, so I can replicate the experience here at home in Oz. Mint, as most of you may know, grows like crazy once it gets established. Heck, I've seen mint grow riotously, recently, from a glass of water that my Lovely Partner had provided for some left-over mint shoots. You can't k.ill the stuff, and it's great for inspiring some refreshing Vietnamese cuisine... nom nom nom... more art...

There is beauty everywhere... and everywhere there is art... there is creativity in anything we do... I've mucked stables in my time... even in that, there is an art to it, and beauty to be found... hahaha... now I'm revealing my true farming backgrounds that go back through generations and generations in Denmark...

Much love to you all... @Mazarita @Teej @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @plasmo @Former-Member @Shaz51 @BlueBay @----oh crud, I'm awful at remembering everyone. Luv youse all... huggles...

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Hi @Silenus .... 😊👋

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thank you for the hugs @Silenus , sending some hugs back to you my friend

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Hi @Mazarita glad to hear you achieved your goal today. I did too, and went a few steps beyond!

Hi @Silenus I'd never have guessed you like writing!!! I love the concept of intentional creativity and have been getting into it the last couple of months. Have written 3 stories based on character development in the last 3 days.

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@Silenus

What a lovely post to read

thank you for including me

a bit like receiving a card

a nice way to end a not so nice day

cheers

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