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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Good morning all @Mazarita @PeppiPatty @Appleblossom @Faith-and-Hope @Teej @CheerBear @outlander I've probably missed the morning chat today but I hope today is off to a pleasant start for you all.

Missing you too @Bunniekins but no pressure. I hope you are ok and that things are going well enough for you. Sending warm wishes for pea-ce in your life xx

Thanks for the tags and kind understanding after my post about mum yesterday. My kidult rang just after that and I got to talk to my granddaughter (4 years old) for a while. It's so lovely now that she's old enough to have a conversation that makes sense. Picked me up a bit.

This morning washed dishes and read notes from last week's meetings before coming on here. I'm trying to stick to the agreement with my psychologist last week about doing something else at the start of the day before I turn on the computer. Have been good about it most days.

Looking forward to catching up for some live chat today. There are a few things I should/could do but no motivation yet (as usual).

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morning @eth @Appleblossom @Mazarita @PeppiPatty @Teej @Faith-and-Hope @Exoplanet @CheerBear and everyone

@Bunniekins a checkin would be much appreciated

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Morning everyone .... 👋💕

I’m on an early break from class.

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Hi Bella @Faith-and-Hope

and Bella @outlander

and Bella @eth

@Mazarita Yes those tipsy turvy nights throw us. I did manage some sleep.

Gentle warming thoughts for the day...

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You too @Appleblossom ....

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Just emerged from bed at 11.30am, like a creature from the black lagoon. I'm pretty wrecked again and may go back for more sleep. Got to sleep about 4am.

@eth, so glad you got to chat with your granddaughter after such a tough talk with your mum, and that it picked you up. Good on you for doing something each day before coming on the forum in the morning. Good luck with finding motivation. I'm hoping for some too.

@outlander, hope today is a bit less busy than yesterday.

@Faith-and-Hope, enjoy your classes today.

@Appleblossom, good to hear you got some sleep.

A good one today to all.

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And to you @Mazarita ....

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Hey @Mazarita Good morning (just)! Even though you had a late night it sounds like you've had 8hrs or so of sleep - more like a healthy amount. I'm still having 5 or 6 naps a night and it p's me off. I long for a longer block of sleep. Hopefully you'll start to be more refreshed by the sleep you get soon as the anti-p weans out of your system. Do you have any plans for today?

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I've given up making plans for my days at present, @eth. It just stresses me more in the midst of the extreme sleepiness and lack of motivation. Hopes maybe (like the washing), but no plans today.

It would be great if you were able to extend those sleep chunks at some point. No wonder you feel p-ed off.

What's on your agenda for today?

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Sorry, @eth. Gotta get off the forum and back to bed again. Hope to catch up in real time later or soon. Good to see you this morning, even if only briefly.

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