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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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That early morning dog barking sound is something that I like not having to worry about I think @Mazarita. As lovely as they can be, I'm really not a dog person. How about you with dogs?

We're hanging out with unwell/well person and have been doing that a bit more than usual for the last little while. I may be able to have a little crew free night tonight which would be really exciting as there's a friend I'm looking forward to having an opportunity to spend the night with. So that's my kind of loose-ish plan for today I think ☺

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A big day by the sounds of it, @CheerBear. Groovy that you might get an evening alone with friend.

I'm mainly a cat person too, CB. I love puppies and dogs I sometimes meet though, also love watching them play on the beach.

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It would be so great if those plans work today I think @Mazarita 😁😊

I think I'm probably the same with dogs. I enjoy watching some of them, love playing with and cuddling puppies, but I am definitely a cat person. The littles would like a dog but the extra work especially as a puppy, and all the dog-ness that comes with dogs isn't something I really want, or not yet, I think.

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I'm hoping for you too, @CheerBear.

I probably wouldn't be a great pet parent, can barely take care of myself. But I like domestic animals that visit my life, or I theirs, from time to time, and the wild creatures especially. Some beautiful, long, slow birdcalls happening here.

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Would you be able to have a pet where you are @Mazarita? I can see you with a quiet lap cat friend for company. Most cats aren't much work aside in that they're pretty independent. Kittens are a bit bananas though haha! I remember the story of wandering cat you shared. It's very special to have animals coming in and out of our life at the right times ❤

It's not so dark here now and there's a kookaburra singing away. Love that sound 😊

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The currawongs are going off now, @CheerBear, closer and louder but still only occasional. Maybe a butcher bird too, I think. They make gorgeous sounds as well.

I'm going to head back to bed now. Good to see you again this morning.

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Always great to see you @Mazarita. I'll have lovely memories of our early morning chats for a long time ❤😊

Hope you sleep well and the day plays out the way you'd like it to.

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Morning all !

@Mazarita I really hope you feel better when you next awaken. Wow...seeing the milenium in at Uluru sounds really powerful. I woke up dreaming that you left the forums and heaps of people felt it strongly. Hope this doesn't happen irl.

@CheerBear I hope your day and night pan out the way you hope.

Had another dream last night about the dv ex trying to come back into my life and that he had been drugging me to get what he wanted. There was all sorts of fall-out happening amongst my family and friends because I'd seen him again. I was quite disturbed by it to say the least. It's still rattling round in my head.

Hi also to @Bunniekins @Shaz51 @Exoplanet @outlander @Sophia1 @Appleblossom

hoping today is starting off nicer there than here.

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Morning @eth. Sorry to hear about your dream last night. Do you have them often? I have similar kinds of dreams that sometimes behind a panic wake up moment in the early morning. They can leave me rattled and feeling pretty shaken. I hope the feelings settle soon for you.

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Thanks @CheerBear. I've had a few dreams with him in them recently but none as vivid as this one was. I resent how dv and other cPTSD causes can keep bouncing back on us so randomly and for so long. Maybe there's room for that stuff to surface more again because the focal fight for NDIS is now over. Or maybe because my EMDR therapy will start soon and this stuff will be faced and worked through. Probably a combination of the above.

Just read a really good blog about the difference between generalised anxiety/depression and the anxiety experienced by those with PTSD. It really rang true for me. themighty.com\anxiety-from-complex-trauma

Might be helpful for others. I won't tag anyone because it's not up to me to disclose people's trauma history.

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