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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@CheerBear, I've already completed 9 videos this year and the last one took much longer than usual (about 6 weeks), so a bit exhausted from the effort, I think. Leaves a gaping hole of 'what to do' in my days though. I too have heard that sleep is good for us. I need to tell myself that being awake is good too when I have days like yesterday, lol.

@Bunniekins, did you get your walk yesterday with son? Anything on the agenda for today?

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Good morning @Mazarita @Bunniekins @CheerBear and anyone else around today Hope today is going well for you so far.

Good to hear your dental work is starting sooner @Mazarita. Sorry to hear you're feeling depressed again. Bugger the black dog. When do you next see your psychiatrist? I think you've said you're on 2 relatively new meds - 1 a couple of months ago and 1 more recently. Perhaps the doses need tweaking. But it's no wonder your body wants to sleep longer than you used to - you had such a long period of doing all-nighters a few times a week (or so it seemed). Perhaps your system is still catching up and re-wiring.

@CheerBear I get why you'd be concerned about the knock-out med with kids in the house. I wonder if you see a psychiatrist or can see a different GP while waiting for your regular one to return from holidays. Maybe seek approval to take a smaller dose of it? Is there follow-up care from the resting place you were staying at - i.e. can they ok med adjustments? Hope you find a satisfactory balance with it soon.

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@Mazarita No walk yesterday but a walk down to the shops this morning with daughter. Weather is beautiful here. I should be attacking the backyard but cannot be bothered ... will do it on Sunday with son2 🙂

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@eth Hi eth no news here but as they say no news is good news 😄 xxx

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Good morning @Bunniekins Beautiful weather here too, but I'm hibernating and really anxious today. Hope it's going better for you.

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Snap @Bunniekins!

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@eth Yes Snap!!! 😄 xx

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Hi @eth, just woke up again after going back to bed. Gotta be in the shower in about half an hour, in readiness for dental appointment (wouldn't inflict how I smell on them, lol, been a while since my last one).

Sorry you are feeling anxious today. I meditated for an hour yesterday (before falling asleep for another 45 minutes). Focussing on my breathing and doing a head to toe relaxation exercise too. Maybe something like that might help? Though I know it's not always possible.

May have missed you this morning, but good to hear from you, even if the messages are spaced out. Hope things settle for you today. ox

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@Mazarita good luck with the dentist xxx

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Thanks, @Bunniekins How's your day going?

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