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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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morning everyone @Exoplanet@Teej@The-red-centaur@Mazarita@CheerBear@eth@Sophia1@Faith-and-Hope@Shaz51@Bunniekins and all who pass through here. wishing everyone a kind day

love the pics! @CheerBear so pretty

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Hi @outlander, didn't get the notification of your post (ongoing problem). If you are still around, wondering how you are at the moment.

I am overtired, only 30 minutes sleep overnight and too wound up to sleep. Have resorted to a prn med to try to get myself to sleep now. Hasn't kicked in yet.

Hi @Exoplanet, @The-red-centaur, @CheerBear, feeling you under the like button. Hope today's a good one for you.

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Hello Everyone

I hope your inspection is over Mazy @Mazarita & they didn't 'pick' on anything. Personally I think as long as your not damaging the structure or fittings of the building space that your paying rent for, you should be able to live how you choose; if that includes grotty benches, cluttered floors or moldy dishes - so be it! Thank goodness I don't rent & my home has never been finished & would be classed 'unliveable', I can embrace the grot & clutter - don't get much mold out here, except on old food & I put that in the compost

I got my load of wood yesterday & the young lad agreed to start on the fence The disorganized business still hasn't collected the wrong sized posts {I have been in, yet again, thanked them for the cheque clearing for my refund & reminded them the posts still need to be collected} - which are actually now the size I intend to use, but I won't use that business again. I'll go into the city soon {whether the others are collected or not) & get the same posts {even if it costs a bit more!} I've given up on a 'dog fence', I really want a proper gate & don't see the sense in one unless it has a fence attached {otherwise I see it as just a garden ornament} I intend to use barbed wire, which I'm hoping will be enough to deter my bowling ball of muscle dog a bit. I will feel more secure knowing that someone would have to cut barbed wire or bust locks to drive onto my land.

Love to you all

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@Exoplanet, awesome that things are moving forward again, without the stress and anxiety of the part of the process just gone by. Ironic that it's the same sized posts you need after all.

Yes, the inspection is over and went fine. However, I have been so revved up about it, I still can't sleep (only 1/2 hour sleep overnight). Hopefully before long I'll get there. I've put my nightie and dressing gown back on to encourage myself (got dressed just for the inspection). Cosy and warm and relaxing to wear, that's my big bear dressing gown.

Again, really glad to hear you sounding more confident and happy with how things are today. Love to you.

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good morning all @Mazarita @eth @outlander @CheerBear @Exoplanet @Bunniekins @Teej

and all passing by

Have read back a couple of pages...retained some of the information...some I probably dont want to retain laugh in regard to your mum's Eth and Mazarita...

Can read some motivation happening everywhere....I have gained an ounce possibly since venturing out from my thread...

better than nothing...

It was nice outside this morning as I retrieved my swimming gear off the line...very surprised that it was not wet and stiff from frost...was actually warm from the sun...wind has come up now...

wishing you all a day ...finding something to smile at...

take care all

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Hi @Sophia1, good to see you out and about, so to speak. Glad to hear the sun is out again where you are. Wishing you smiles today too.

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@Mazarita I'm glad the inspection went well

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Hi @The-red-centaur, thanks again.

How are you going today?

Hi @eth, @Bunniekins, @Shaz51, @Teej, @Faith-and-Hope and anyone else around. Forum seems quiet today. Wonder how your day is going. Good vibes for the rest of it going well.

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Hi @Mazarita, @Sophia1, @Exoplanet, @outlander @eth @CheerBear and anyone else reading

so glad the inspection is over @Mazarita. Awesome that you can breathe and sleep again.

@Sophia1 I’m glad you are breathing a bit freer. I bet your glad you got outside earlier. I think we live in the same state and it’s awful now. I might have that wrong too. I’m hoping for a break in it to walk dog who has been on my bed all day.

@Exoplanet I see that any fence might be helpful. It will be interesting to see what happens with the company who owns the posts. They may have written them off as a loss (and claim insurance) if it will cost too much to retrieve them. I’m wondering if it’s worth waiting off on it and then in a month or so ring if they haven’t collected them to see if they will. You may get them for free.

@outlander I know you are having a rough day. Hang in there.

@eth I hope everything is going ok at your end with mum. I did have a small giggle at some of it. It’s so much easier to see the funny side when it’s not you though. I’d imagine if it was happening in my world I’d be going bald from ripping my hair out.

@CheerBear. So good to read your news just before. I’m so glad you got to go. Funny thing I got from your and Maz posts is that I kind of wish I smoked again so I could capture lots more moments of beauty outside. I used to be one who’d sit on my back step and be more in tune with the universe as it was happening.

Me im just a little numb. I took a combo of meds last night that we’re safe and helped me switch off and sleep well. I’m feeling surprisingly calm just now until the affects wear off. I couldn’t face my therapist today and cancelled. I just couldn’t get so wound again. So it’s 3:00 pm here and I’m still in bed trying to work out what to do next. Did manage to feed dog and take meds but have been in bed the rest of the time :face_with_rolling_eyes:😳.

Hugs to all 💜🤗

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