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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Good morning, @CheerBear.

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Morning @Mazarita ❤ My notifications are still playing up (grrr). I haven't caught up much but noticed you had a trying day and night. Big big hugs. How are you this morning?

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Same here, @CheerBear. They are working on it though.

Thanks for your hugs. I can really use them about now.

I've had about half an hour's sleep in the armchair.

Already done a few morning jobs for the flat inspection.

Somehow I fitted in some video editing overnight, lol.

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What time is the inpsection @Mazarita? It seems like you have them so often (from memory it's every 3 months?). It sucks heaps and I understand how stressful and general ugh it can be when they come up 🙁 It would be heaps harder with physical issues happening at the time too, which I can imagine would be a big blow for you after going well with it for a while. Extra hugs ❤

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Thanks again, CB. I will take all the hugs you have.

The inspection time is anytime arrival between 8-11. So have to be ready for the early option. Just have my courtyard to sweep, clean table, neaten up. And a shower to get myself as clean as the flat.

I'm guessing you are still at the break place. Hope it's a healing experience there. How are you doing this morning. Hugs back to you.

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That sucks with a three hour window @Mazarita! Maybe a good thing that it's earlier in the day and you can get it over and done with though? Go you with having done it all (except for the courtyard for now) 😊

I am still here at the break spot. It's my last day here today before discharge tomorrow. It's been a great and incredibly helpful experience again. Truly, it's probably life saving (I was such a mess before I came in, all three times now).

I am OK enough this morning thanks. I have plans for a fun last day with everyone here including some baking and some activities.

Guess what I did and survived recently? My DSP assessment ☺ During the first week I was here I got the letter for my interview which was a huge stress thing I've been sitting with. The timing was great in being here where there was plenty of support to get through it. It was yuck and I was a mashy shaky bundle over it, but I did it and can put it aside for now too. It probably doesnt hurt my application that I was admitted to a MH facility at the time it came up either.

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@CheerBear, just went off to do the courtyard sweeping. Now there's just the table to do, when I've finished my smoking for this morning, lol. Then I will spray eucalypt out there so it smells okay by 8am. Sometimes she doesn't even go out into the courtyard. That just leaves a shower (no small thing, lol).

So happy to hear you have had such support at this time, CB. It's awesome that you survived your DSP application, and had backup from the break people while you were at it. And that the timing may be helpful for the application. Every finger and toe is metaphorically crossed for you to get this the first time.

A fun last day sounds great, just what is wanted on the day before discharge.

Hugs again. So so glad you feel it has been a healing experience.

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Thanks @Mazarita 😊 I feel like I can leave here with some hope I can keep on keeping on again - probably a good thing in general 😉

When I have inspections I like to think of how great the clean house feeling is that follows them. It helps me when in tidying up places they don't even look at. I also think the cleaner it looks all around, the less likely they are to look closely and find things to pick at. I hope it feels good for you when it's done.

I smoke also (maybe not a surprise for you who knows I hang outside in the ridiculously cold weather). It's not something I've openly mentioned here before but it's about the only reason I brave the freezing and sit outside in the early hours of winter. I had stopped for years and took it back up during a really hard time, and the hard times have kept rolling in in a big way so I've found it hard to quit again. Here we have a lovely courtyard thing too. We're allowed to (quietly) smoke there when the facility is locked at night but we have to leave the grounds when it is open during the day. I've taken these during my sunrise visits to the outside world and wanted to show you

I'm about to head out there now and check out how the sun is starting her day too. I'm going home for a quick visit in a moment to feed the furballs and take some of the (ridiculous amount of) stuff I've managed to bring in and collect here. I'll say hi to the fruit tree birds while I'm there ☺

Good luck with it today. Will have everything crossed for you too that it goes well.

So good to catch a morning Maz vibe this morning ❤

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A fellow smoker, @CheerBear. I've smoked way too much overnight. In and out of the sliding glass door as quietly as possible in the dark. My nerves finding an outlet in it. Hopefully we will both be free of it at some future time.

I agree with what you say about the place feeling so much better after the cleaning ordeal. I do look forward to that satisfaction. Have just struggled hard this time around to get it there. But I'm glad I was able to push myself forward, despite extreme reluctance. That in itself seems to be a sign of progress in me. There have been times when C has picked up the slack for me when I just couldn't move myself in the past.

Looking forward to seeing the image.

Wonderful to meet a Cheerbear vibe this morning, has picked me up at a difficult moment. Thank you! And more hugs.

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Wonderful photos, @CheerBear.

Inspection is done. All cool. Such a little amount of time in her checking out the place and taking some photos, maybe five minutes. So much preparation! Anyway, the agent and I had a nice little chat while she was here. All good. Feels like an anti-climax, lol! The really great thing now is we can enjoy an extra clean flat for a while. All's well that ends well.

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