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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Ive 2 appts on separate days then for the next 2 weeks taken on an extra 2 horses each day while their owners are away. So have 6 horses a week to care for then back to 4 a week. Bit of extra money doesnt go astray thats for sure @Mazarita
The week after ive pretty much got appts every day plus the horses as well so have some busy times coming up

Sounds like a busy week for you too

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Sounds like busy times for you both @outlander @Mazarita. I'm wound right down now and finding the lag in notifications frustrating so I'll say good night and sweet dreams to you both and see you soon.

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Goodnight @eth sleep well or enjoy the rest of your evening till your able to sleep

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I'm hoping the extra activity will be good for me, @outlander. I spend a fair bit of time at home alone doing nothing much at times. Appointments get me out of the flat too, which is usually a good thing for the whole feeling of my days.

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Triple snap!!! We all posted within the same minute, @eth, @outlander.

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Goodnight, @eth. Hope you enjoy the rest of your evening and sleep well tonight. ox

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I think it is the whole site @eth my internet for this site is lagging


Ah yes i understand those days @Mazarita i like to be busy but know i need the rest too. My life is quite repeitive so gets abit boring in that respect.
Hopefully all your appts go well for you. Did you have any other plans besides cleaning and appts?

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@Sophia1@eth thank you both for your kind comments re son2's birthday. It went really well and he was super happy. Luckily for us he is not fussy and basically is happy with simple things which is easy for everyone. Coles chocolate cake and pizzas and family is all he wanted plus the present which we are still working on.....

Sophia1 please tag me as I keep forgetting the name of your thread .... I have a mind like a seive and I know you prefer using the other thread but I simply cannot remember it unless I see it come up .... old age and mi I suppose. I often wonder how you are doing and love reading your posts. xxx

eth so happy it all went so well for you and you were able to cope so well with all the people and happenings kudos to you my friend. I could not have dont it.

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@Mazarita you sound like you have lived in some amazing places with C. I love the butcher bird story how lucky were you to receive such a gift. 🙂

Not sure I could cope with the snake under the bath though ....

I love the fact that we are both bad influences to each other makes it interesting 🙂

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Will be back after dinner to read back through the thread over the past several hours, @outlander, @Bunniekins. Then I'll be up to speed for chatting! ox

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