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Son2

BunniekinsSenior Contributor

Son2

Hi everyone something happened last night with son2. It has been coming for awhile and no one is surprised least of all me as I have been makint excuses for months now .... one of his voices threatened me in a very violent way. Luckily he could talk the voice down and my daughter was here but nonetheless it has made me realise that son2 will have to go to a group home in the near future.

He is too big for me to handle when he gets out of control angry and the voices are at him. It just makes me sad that I will never be able to fix him. He will always have these nasty voices at him regardless of medications. He will never be totally free and will always be paranoid and thinking his family are out to get him.

It is so unfair. I could kid myself when he was younger that I could fix his problems. But it is impossible. I can't make it better and being a mum you are meant to be able to fix things for your children and I cannot. I feel a total failure...

It just hurts so much. Thinking bad thoughts tonight. Bad thoughts are surrounding me. Life shouldnt hold so much pain.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

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@Bunniekins

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor

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@Meowmy Yes I have had a avocado (yum!) with a salad and two hot chocolates :). That is pretty healthy isnt it. I might get stuck into some crackers and tasty cheese later ..... have to see 🙂

Have you had any dinner yet? I love hearing about your dinners they are always so yum!:)

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor

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@Meowmy I wish I could but he has a demanding job plus a gf and lives 1 1/2 away from me so I would feel super guilty. He is trying to have tuesday off because we are going back to son2's psychiatrist. I dont feel I can ask anymore from him atm.

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MeowmySenior Contributor

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@Bunniekins I cooked some chestnuts and broad beans, mixed with sweet ghillie saurce on rice cakes.

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor

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@Meowmy Meowmy I bet you look fanastic with the way you eat so well :). The meal sounds super nice and interesting too 🙂

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MeowmySenior Contributor

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@Bunniekins it's better to call him to smooth over dark stuff than to wait for it to get worse. He will understand. It's his son too. Think it's reasonable to speak with him more frequently in this period..

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MeowmySenior Contributor

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@Bunniekins hey little pea, you took on such complex high demand full time job to look after son two. And you have your own health issues to look after.Ex must understand. He wouldn't want any of you hurt or get sick.

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor

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@Meowmy He is a sweet man Meowmy but he doesnt understand mi really. Mine has him baffled. He is better with son2 because son2 is so out there but you are right I will email him in a little while and discuss my feelings about all of this. He deserves to know particularly since my thoughts are so dark atm which is very unlike me but happens alot when son2 comes into the equation.

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor

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@Meowmy Thanks Meowmy :). You are just the pea's best friend. Always there for me. I hope I can return the favour when you are in need. I hope that never happens though :). I want you to stay well and happy as much as possible.xxx

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor

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@Meowmy Nite Meowmy. Will write the email to ex tonight before I go to bed. He is a caring man and will be there for me but you are right he can only be there for me if he knows.

Thank you my friend Meowmy and good nite. Talk tomorrow. xxx

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