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Sleeping too much
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
Re: Sleeping too much
@Former-Member
I do understand what you are saying and some people will never understand - as I wrote elsewhere - some people are so busy thinking about themselves they can't hear you - and this woman has proven herself to be one of them
Truth - I had several miscarriages and adopted - and then had my dd the normal way then lost my son and it IS DIFFERENT. Sure a woman without children and wanting them despairs - but yeah - she does have choices - my stars - does she? What about a career? - Also - although Australian white children are few ands far between when it comes to adopting there are plenty of Indigneous Children - and then - I met a couple who have adopted two little children from Nigeria - and they are gorgeous - and oh my - what you said - what could she know about having and losing - all the love and your emotional investment and having J die - and - I have been there wanting kids and it is rough - but it is NOT THE SAME
I am not doing the Juvenile Justice thing - I have found out enough for now - and I know how to watch what's happening on the internet now - and my therapist advised me against going further - there are deep pockets of pain inside me and you have those too - and we do not need to go and pick around in there to see if they still hurt - they do - we can remember that without checking - we still hurt deep inside
Your person who hasn't been able to have children - yes - that hurts too - I will admit that - but we all have choices and you are living yours out day by day - now you have confronted one or your pharisees and she didn't get it - but you have exercised a choice
I wish I had been there - I am glad you spoke out - you are vulnerable and it will take time to get past the hurt of your so-called friends at the church
I am sorry Tawns - I wish I had been there with you
Dec
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Unknown userMember
Re: Sleeping too much
Thanks @Owlunar, i know you understand. but I am glad to say it was more annoying than hurtful - guess i'm stronger now (finally) and it didn't hurt me like all the times before.
We really do rise stronger if we persevere.
I think that lot just knew where my buttons were and kept pushing them, always saying things that were katty, but now,
now I'm in charge,
their annoying prodding doesn't seem to penetrate, and is short lived. One good thing though, she actually complimented my hair (up in a bun now I've grown it long).
I had a lovely chat with my son last night, and he wasn't rude once or complaining about the time etc. Did say a few things about his bruised childhood and how he has 'no family' no his sis is gone... which i found surprising and a tad hurtful (I've always been here for him hello), but bit my tongue. I was pleased to hear he had friends over his new place for a 'dinner party / house warming' which went well. A must when we move I reckon re that first visit the hardest for guests. Pluss. glad He's picking up the guitar again. He said he appreciates his 'kingdom of solitude' after a hard days work. Actually, he had a little scare at work, they lost a major client and so had to terminate x2 staff members. Being fairly new onboard his job was at risk but apparently they see more promise in him than the other web developer onboard. This was a good and sobering lesson for him. I'm grateful to god because losing a job at this time would be almost too much for him I fear, although he did say he's confident he'd find another job quickly. He still friends with his old flame, they still do things together but very mature in realising that somw of their values and future plans are no compatible (eg S1 refuses to have children). Hmm, very sensible I guess.
I've fallen in a heap already, like I have a fever or something, really don't want to go to ladies kyb study in an hour. Maybe take a headache tab and try again.
Hope everyone else is OK. I'll check in later. xoc
We really do rise stronger if we persevere.
I think that lot just knew where my buttons were and kept pushing them, always saying things that were katty, but now,
now I'm in charge,
their annoying prodding doesn't seem to penetrate, and is short lived. One good thing though, she actually complimented my hair (up in a bun now I've grown it long).
I had a lovely chat with my son last night, and he wasn't rude once or complaining about the time etc. Did say a few things about his bruised childhood and how he has 'no family' no his sis is gone... which i found surprising and a tad hurtful (I've always been here for him hello), but bit my tongue. I was pleased to hear he had friends over his new place for a 'dinner party / house warming' which went well. A must when we move I reckon re that first visit the hardest for guests. Pluss. glad He's picking up the guitar again. He said he appreciates his 'kingdom of solitude' after a hard days work. Actually, he had a little scare at work, they lost a major client and so had to terminate x2 staff members. Being fairly new onboard his job was at risk but apparently they see more promise in him than the other web developer onboard. This was a good and sobering lesson for him. I'm grateful to god because losing a job at this time would be almost too much for him I fear, although he did say he's confident he'd find another job quickly. He still friends with his old flame, they still do things together but very mature in realising that somw of their values and future plans are no compatible (eg S1 refuses to have children). Hmm, very sensible I guess.
I've fallen in a heap already, like I have a fever or something, really don't want to go to ladies kyb study in an hour. Maybe take a headache tab and try again.
Hope everyone else is OK. I'll check in later. xoc
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Re: Sleeping too much
Hi @Former-Member .... 🤗💕
That is sounding sooo good .... remembering where you were at last year .... you go girl ❣
And S1 chatting on like that .... you see ? he's finding you again in his own way and in his own time. Don't worry too much about the no kids thing either .... that's how he feels at the moment, but he might meet women who already has kids and starts to share hers, making you a step-grandma .... or just meeting someone a little further down the road he might change his mind with more inner healing .... wait and see .... can't count the chickens yet ,... more might hatch ....
Hugs .... ❤️💕
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Re: Sleeping too much
@Former-Member
It is true that similar uncaring behaviour from others ... can elicit different responses within us. I am not sure that it can be deliberately preached or practised .. but maybe it is just when we are genuinely healed a little .. the barbs have less power to injure.
I have noticed that too .. cant control it .. but def a relief when it happens 
Glad bloods are ok
Cos I have also been borderline vego a lot .. have been careful re iron
I was very thankful of the doctor who inaugurated my blood tests and the intelligent and collaborative manner in which he discussed them. he would have known I was grateful too .. as did the earlier doctors from same clinic .. who showed up at the opera 2 weeks ago.
need to do some special bloods at end of month.
@Owlunar I can understand that it would be better for you .. to keep tabs on the juvenile justem system from a distance ...your pain levels need to be respected .. You have put in plenty of effort at the coal front before .. but it helps to stay up to date .. and also we benefit from the depth of your experience.
Go Safely Friends ...
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Unknown userMember
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GROUP HUG! @Faith-and-Hope, @Owlunar, @Former-Member, @Shaz51, @Appleblossom, @TAB, @utopia, and all the nice people here, so many of you - thanks for everything
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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💋 ... Mwah @Former-Member
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TABSenior Contributor
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Just saw yr post @Former-Member .. where do you get those pics? Beyond cute😀
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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@Former-Member. So glad your tests came back okay. I'm starting to think like you. My body is just getting older. The doctors test - find abnormalities - they test further and everything is okay.
So yes - my body is aging. And I guess I just like to keep the doctors on their toes. Lol.
So yes - my body is aging. And I guess I just like to keep the doctors on their toes. Lol.
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
Re: Sleeping too much
@Former-Member
Yes - where do you get these pics - I love them
Okay - which one of the seven dwarves am I? I gotta be the tall one with the glasses with the hands-on approach with the only one with his eyes open? Here's a thought folks - don't open your eyes unless you want to see something - but then - blissful ignornorance does have it's place
I love the story of Snow While - a sweet young girl going into the forest to live with 7 strange little men - quaint
Dec
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Unknown userMember
Re: Sleeping too much
Just got home after a full day and laying down re sore from waist down grr. I'm lucky my bed sits directly under a fan. Poor dog carries on when I get home - so excited, cute really. Makes me smile.
Was at the shop 'till 1pm (but the boss decided last min to put me up front with the people (yes, the people ARR!), not only that, she decided to teach me 'The Till' ARR! ARR! Can't believe I get so nervous about 'new' things, more to the point - 'responsibility' ^anxiety, what if i stuff up the 'till? But I endured & served many customers (my first time ever doing eftpos) yikes! Wish i was hiding out the back, bit guess its stretching me.
Managed to renew my drivers licence (x5 days overdue), the police station is only open 3days a wk.
Psychologist apt was good, she did 'mapping' today, of ACT in relation to my strained relation with my son. Interesting pulling apart, dicecting an incident and really looking at the why's&wherefores of it all. Complex creatures we are. Anyway, mustnt be too smart cause it kinda does my head in but i bought the scribble / mapping page home yo stick in my diary to go over. My 6+4 visits are up so I need to do a new care plan with GP - not sure if i want to keep going with it - maybe take a break - what do you think?
@Owlunar, Tab, I have quite a collection of pictures but this last one - I googled 'Group Hug cartoons' and screenshot my fav. A picture says 1,000 words 🙂
