Sleeping too much

Hi @TAB. I'd like to say that last night you didn't offend me personally but I when others have been the target I become collateral damage. I hurt when I see someone being undermined. It would be easy to say it's none of my business if I'm not the target but this needs to be a safe space for us all for it to be safe for me. I also really believe it has to be inclusive and at times I have perhaps been guilty of being exclusive too when I have a bee in my bonnet on a particular problem I'm trying to solve. I have made so many mistakes on here and am constantly learning from them. I hate conflict like we all do. Last night after I posted I shook and was so anxious for over an hour. It took another two hours to sleep but it was very close to my heart that we work this out better on here. I also reported myself to the moderators. I overstepped the mark with my first reaction to your comments and have asked for it to be removed which it was. I'm sorry for that comment. I will probably edit the other post at some stage to take away the bold letters (which was probably a bit over the top) but not the content which I still stand by.

I hope we can put this behind us and move on in a way that makes everyone feel safe as I know that my comments last night have affected others too. Take care @TAB💜😊

Dear @Former-Member

I know..there's always attraction in seeing someone's ...Freedom and being able to ........live freely without the constraints of rent/ mortgage and we think that a face can think that they are kind.

But you gotta stay safe. And theres no problems with handing a packet of bickies or saying hello but the MOST important thing is to stay safe. It's really really hard to make this decision and your positive that they are safe but .....you don't know.

I love reading your story. I remember I did some volly work at Salvation Army care line councelling and it was at a time in my life where I was VERY vulnerable. I did some really good work but could'nt cope with the other workers complaining and nastiness. They of course were much better than me........AT a vollunteer position !! When I had to quit because my son was getting ill, I just knew that they would have all thought it was because I was no good but........it didnt matter in the end. My son was more inmportant.

I liked reading your story because you saw yourself in different angles.

that you could see yourself as authentic:

That your son sees you as reliable and he can depend on you. This is so important.

You write :

Maybe I felt sadness. Maybe I should work in welfare. Maybe I felt compelled to check he was ok, had enough food. I didn't need a packet of biscuits if it meant he had food to eat.
I think this man kind of made my day..
People can judge. But if you remain who you are, with all your quirks intact...isn't this how we are meant to be?!

Yes, this is how you are meant to live....to be truthful like you but you also are able to keep yourself safe and say: he made my day, I might go in welfare and I need to get on my own way. Stay safe @Former-Member

just let the world pass by in your safe world.

So impressed that you write so clearly,

PP x

Hi @Former-Member

How are you tonight ?

Great to see you but I need to sleep now.......( not)

How many furbabies do you have now?

I hope that your fine, thinking about you. So fond of you ....

PP

Dear @Former-Member

Me too.....

knackered. We used to have stick insects from Queensland for years......is that leaf green insects ?

Please secretly cuddle your lil ones from me.......

Hope we talk soon

PP

Hi @Former-Member .... 😊💜

Late response to something that came up yesterday ....

I agree with @Former-Member .... that definition of insanity doesn't sit well with me at all either .... :face_with_rolling_eyes:

We all keep repeating the same pattern again and again until we work out, not only that it's not serving us, but also how it's not serving us and what needs to be changed ....

And psychologists are part of that "we all" ....

Grrrr !

Can do better than that .... ❣