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Sleeping too much
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Re: Sleeping too much
Oh that's great sorting centrelink. One less worry.😊
Hmm yes it's taken a fair while for me to talk about my worries. I guess it got to breaking point.
My mum once said I could never live alone.
I know exactly how you mean. Once your on a roll, the ball just gets bigger & bigger.
And it's little remarks, or an upcoming event that blows me out.
I try really hard sometimes to sit with it as my friend.
So essentially it either makes me aloof or over chatty until it passes.
Either way, exhausting work!
Today whilst out I didn't feel in sync..it becomes hard to co-exist then. But there are kind people about & that helps.😊
Hmm yes it's taken a fair while for me to talk about my worries. I guess it got to breaking point.
My mum once said I could never live alone.
I know exactly how you mean. Once your on a roll, the ball just gets bigger & bigger.
And it's little remarks, or an upcoming event that blows me out.
I try really hard sometimes to sit with it as my friend.
So essentially it either makes me aloof or over chatty until it passes.
Either way, exhausting work!
Today whilst out I didn't feel in sync..it becomes hard to co-exist then. But there are kind people about & that helps.😊
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Unknown userMember
Re: Sleeping too much
I think that's definitely been a challenge @Former-Member....the living alone with no one to off load my rubbish to. I am slowly getting better but I guess it's going to take a long time to be able to sit with uncomfortable stuff and deal with it by myself. But my aim is to work through all this so that one day I can have another relationship. I just need to be in control of me way more and know who I am before I go there again. May run out of time in my life for that though😏😜
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Re: Sleeping too much
💜🌷 @Former-Member ..,, sounds like a good day to keep busy then ....
Just a suggestion .... try to overwrite what this day was with something new .... something that makes you feel good about yourself ? Make it a pamper day maybe ? Plant something new in the garden, even if it's a packet of seeds ..... wear your favourite colour .... cook something you really like for dinner .... ?
💜💕 @Former-Member ....
Just a suggestion .... try to overwrite what this day was with something new .... something that makes you feel good about yourself ? Make it a pamper day maybe ? Plant something new in the garden, even if it's a packet of seeds ..... wear your favourite colour .... cook something you really like for dinner .... ?
💜💕 @Former-Member ....
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Re: Sleeping too much
Btw ..... baby dragons all tangled and wonky this morning ....
Was going to leave D2 home with S2 .... had the thought to check with him even tho he's sleeping ..... yep ..... organised a driving lesson without making sure he had money to pay for it .... wouldn't have been able to leave D2 home alone .... D3 didn't end up at school yesterday and is not co-operative at all this morning .... oh joy ! ....
Have got it half sorted .... and heading towards coffee sometime after that ....
Hope you get that walk in @Former-Member ..... might manage one late this arvo if I'm lucky ....
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Was going to leave D2 home with S2 .... had the thought to check with him even tho he's sleeping ..... yep ..... organised a driving lesson without making sure he had money to pay for it .... wouldn't have been able to leave D2 home alone .... D3 didn't end up at school yesterday and is not co-operative at all this morning .... oh joy ! ....
Have got it half sorted .... and heading towards coffee sometime after that ....
Hope you get that walk in @Former-Member ..... might manage one late this arvo if I'm lucky ....
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Unknown userMember
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Nooo way you've got loads of awesome appeal left yet! 😜
I used to feel same way on one level.
But I think some people just compliment better, & are willing to work with you, they just get ya type's!
I think timing just happens.
I just pooled myself into my boy's, because they held me.
One thing the psychologist and I have been looking at recently is trust.
It's really a giving of oneself & that's vulnerable.
No one is perfect. I think it's cool your just cruising along.
It's the best way.
Time sorts it's own self out.
Well I better get this washing out & dog poo jeans in wash!
Omg it was disgusting.😏
I used to feel same way on one level.
But I think some people just compliment better, & are willing to work with you, they just get ya type's!
I think timing just happens.
I just pooled myself into my boy's, because they held me.
One thing the psychologist and I have been looking at recently is trust.
It's really a giving of oneself & that's vulnerable.
No one is perfect. I think it's cool your just cruising along.
It's the best way.
Time sorts it's own self out.
Well I better get this washing out & dog poo jeans in wash!
Omg it was disgusting.😏
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Unknown userMember
Re: Sleeping too much
Maybe @Faith-and-Hope. I guess it's been a bit weird because at the time when it was hell I used to think five years from now it would all be over and things would be back to normal. I think I'm more upset that this was the mark I set myself to be ok but I never anticipated how far I would continue to fall or how completely it took me apart. That five years on I'm so dysfunctional. I know I have to get over it but it was also a bit like déjà vu in that it was my mums birthday celebrations five years ago and the same dates are on the same days of the week along with celebration of mums birthday happening in a similar way. Sorry think I'm still offloading. 💜😊
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Just read about your baby dragons @Faith-and-Hope good luck, @Former-Member yep you can have that job. I'll leave you both to get on with your day. Might have to crawl out of bed and start mine. 😊💜
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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💜🌷 .... Sounds like you need to @Former-Member .... and yeah .... that sucks .... the déjà vu part ....
The thing is, things can start to turn around quite quickly, particularly after you have made some landmark decisions, like the one a couple of weeks back .... can create an "uncorking" of sorts in a good way .... so try to keep your spirits up and "look for signs of Spring" like we do with the weather changes and the first buds and green leaves ....
Keep anticipating better things .... 😊💕
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DecadianSenior Contributor
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Hi @Former-Member
You have a lot to work out - and you are getting your priorities sorted too - life with your sons is important - more important than extended family - but extended family is important too
I keep in touch with some of mine on Facebook or with emails - distance being the problem
@Faith-and-Hope
I am glad you have a few days here to recharge yourself - oh dear- what can we say - only that in spite of not being on-line I still had reminders to think of you and to send up some prayers - I decided to pull up some succulents in my back garden and guess what - they have pink flowers
Really - I have no idea what you are going through - it is a very difficult situation
So I am thinking of you and you are right - self-care has to be a carer's priority
Dec
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DecadianSenior Contributor
Re: Sleeping too much
Hi @Faith-and-Hope
I am sorry your cold has found its way into your sinuses - that is not good news at all
Your adventures with WH are truly epic - how do you do it?
Still thinking of you
Dec
