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Morning @Former-Member

Morning all,

I feel your pain and conflicting priorities between work and Ms M @Mandy1
Some great advice here from @Faith-and-Hope, something I wish I had implemented when first married, now we have 18 years of bad habits to break, it is something that we are currently working on though. For me the hardest part has been trusting the backups that are in place (or more to the point that my darling will actually use them) and leaving the phone off in designated 'do not disturb' times.

@Faith-and-Hope@Determined@Mandy1

I've had similar issues with our daughter ringing up to talk at odd times. She'll often want to talk for an hour or so, mostly as a way of settling her mind. If that happens just when I'm about to start dinner, it means late dinner and as a result, late bedtime. I guess I'm reluctant to set "no calls times" because psychological distress doesn't always fit into timetables.

However, she's recently started mood stabilising meds while an inpatient at a private clinic, and they actually seem to be helping her! If so, it will be the first time medication has actually been beneficial. Really hoping that the calming effect might give her the mental breathing space to start getting more benefit from counselling, as well as more leeway for coping with day to day life. But don't want to get hopes up too high until we can see it happening.

I guess I'm reluctant to set "no calls times" because psychological distress doesn't always fit into timetables.

I agree @Smc that is why I have always made myself available, unfortunately due to the nature of the illness (for us at least) I believe that this has been taken advantage of, so in the last 6 months have been working on some boundaries with the support of a councillor. (Councillor initiated not mine).

What we do have now that has not been in place in the past (mostly because not many people were aware of our situation) is that we have people of value my darling can call on in a time of genuine crises. Problem is she wont ever call them, I am the defult whipping post 😞 This I dont mind but I was starting to question the motive and timing of some of the calls. something for us to work on together.

Hi All

Happy Friday! I know have been really absent from the forums. I hope everyone is relatively well. Had my dance concert last Saturday. It was good. Stuffed up a bit but it was fun nonetheless and no one noticed the stuff up other than my partner (not surprised!).

Things have been good and extremely busy other than the past couple days. I woke up on and off Wednesday night/Thursday morning feeling anxious. Then the feeling went away. Last night playing tennis and I choked...i was anxious to start with and started becoming more anxious. I feel so horrible I let them down even though it was a friendly match. I was in tears. My partner asked why am anxious but I really don't know. It happens once every 2-3 months. He did mention about whether i considered talking to a professional but I don't know cause I don't even know why I am anxious. It only happens every few months and the feeling of anxiety goes away after a day or 2.