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Hot Chocolate Anyone ?

Hot Chocolate Anyone ?

Hi All

There is a thread operating on the Lived Experience Forum under Night Shift where members who are having trouble sleeping for any reason give a bit of a shout-out, to see if there is anyone else sleepless and looking for company. It's been such a great thing, I thought I would start one over here too.

I have had the odd few nights where I have woken up on and off, and my kids have been having a bit of trouble some nights too, depending on what has happened during the day.

Being a carer can be lonely too, so if you are making an after-midnight cup of something hot, and wonder who else might be doing that too, maybe have a look-in here and see if anyone else is about.

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Hello, did someone mention 🍷BAILEYS lol

Oh my goodness @Faith-and-Hope, what a big plan ahead of you. Guessing it will be a few months process, and you sound positive it will help (I have a gut feeling there'll be more support there but pitty to sever new found psychological help, hope its not a 'running away' thing with recent exposures). You make sure you keep taking those sanity breaks to recharge. Oh my goodness, I had a wave of nausea just reading it all, wouldn't wanna be in your shoes, yikes!!! 💜💕

Hi @Dhaz51, Darcy, Determined... and everyone over here, chirpy bunch you are, its nice 🙂

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@Faith-and-Hope that is a lot, thinking of you at the moment. Trust you find the strength necessary to get through this. What does S2 think of the potential move?

That shows a high level of commitment from hubby to your family to drop his family and friends like that, particularity his mum, I recall a time when my mum had a significant emotional hold over me and I'm not sure I could have just packed up and moved interstate, darling and I used to joke about doing it but it reality I'm not sure I could have followed through even if the right opportunity opened up to make it possible,

Edit. fixed all the spelling and grammar errors, I really should give up on trying to use the phone app lol

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Hi everyone ..... 💕

@Determined ..... WH hasn't actually got friends ..... he and his family have acquaintanceships rather than friendships ..... they are bonded together with each other in lieu of friendships, and WH has this ability to suddenly drop his frankly and walk away ..... it's part of his personality disorder, I can see that now.

We are in a fantastic position where we don't have to pack up this household to move there on a temporary basis, becaus said he family property there is self-sufficient, like a holiday house that could go out to rent fully-furnished at a moments notice ..... so it's really just packing a case to go over there.

WH will prioritise S2 over his mum, but as much as this was a shock for me, it's going to be a bigger one for her ..... he has b come her twice a day company, and she buys him no-occasion gifts like a gf ..... she's not going to cope well with being dropped cold, but it's all part of the dysfunction that has been building over time within our home, where prior to the ocpd triggering in WH, this stuff was outside our door. My struggle had been keeping it outside our door.

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Here's a little something for teetotalers such as myself (in sympathy with Mr Darcy and his meds) that don't DRINK Baileys ....

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@Faith-and-Hope

Sounds so complicated,

Is this new plan endoresed by S2s doc or is it a brain wave on hubbys behalf, (if you dont mind me asking, I wont be offended if you ignore the question) . and what does S2 think?

Equally important will you still have the space and facility to do your art work? you need to be able to still do your activities . (Laughing at my own advice here by the way, I still have not done any of my self care activities I comitted to at the sart of the year).

Thinking of you as you and your family work through this.

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*Big wave

@Faith-and-Hope @outlander @Former-Member @Determined @Smc

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😊👋 ..... @Former-Member ....

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Hey @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope ❤ ❤

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It's S2 lead @Determined ..... which is why it is so important for him, and endorsed by the pdoc. I started to see the silver linings this morning, and we have such a long way to go with WH yet, that it's too hard to see where we will be two years along ..... but things won't stay still with the other kids either, and fortunately this is not collateral damage from the undercover illness ..... our older kids could safely grow up and detach and become independent adults under our family roof ..... now we are in a different place so the solutions need to be different also.

Your kids grow up to fly the best, for sure, but you don't usually follow along with the nest in tow, and what happens to the others who have flown the nest but are not expecting the nest to be picked up and taken off with with very little warning ..... and the step-up to leaving the nest is on a much shorter timeline now for S2 ..... ..... ...... rollercoaster ......

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Trust it all works out for the best @Faith-and-Hope

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