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Oh dear @Former-Member .... sounds like you've had a really bad day ..... ❤️💕

I have a combination of flooded inbox and come notifications not happening, but I will look you up and see where I can find you ....

We got rained out mid-painting yesterday so it's only half-done, you might have seen on my Far and Away thread, but I have taken a photo from the site to finish working on it at home.

It was good for the kids to have a go at open-air painting though, so worth the long drive, but we're in the road again today, headed home ... I have woken at 4:30am, so better try to doze some more soon.

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Yes I did @Faith-and-Hope But I'm ok now and well on the mend. I hope you have a wonderful day. How is the weather for photos and painting?

It rained early in the morning @Former-Member .... but it was unexpected because the drive down the day before was bright sunshine all the way, so we were thinking it would be good yesterday too. It stayed overcast most of the day, then some blue sky showed through, as you can see in the painting, but then it started raining after an another hour or so ....

Still, the most important thing was taking photos for the oil painting I am planning, and I spent a lot of time with S2 particularly discussing composition and trying to take enough photos to support my impression of the place.

Anyway ... I had better try to get a little more sleep before we have to pack up and leave .... it's going to be another very long day. See you at the other end of it .... 😊

Take care ❤️

Me too re the snoozing @Faith-and-Hope Way too early! You have a great day and a safe drive back. Looking forward ro the painting especially 🙂

Tooky.

Hey @Faith-and-Hope, love your painting so far. Cant wait to see the finished product.

@Former-Member, so sorry to read that you had a really bad day yesterday. Glad today is shaping up to be an improvement.

@Shaz51, I hope your day is going well.

@Anony18 - Oh you poor thing. I am really sorry you have some unresolved differences which are still playing so badly on your mind. Whenever I am getting over an argument with my hubby, I also tend to feel very low and want to hide out. Unfortunately we had one last night as well, when he came home drunk. When drunk he will just pick, pick, pick until I eventually snap, blow my top and walk away. So I was in bed early last night, without dinner. I just lose any appetite I may have had, and dont really feel like doing anything after an argument. He's fine this morning though, all is forgotten. And I know its not use bringing the subject up now, he wont remember anything about last night. But he really can be extremely hurtful in things he says. Even though I know its not really true, its still belittling, upsetting, and often triggering. I hope you are able to sort things out sooner rather than later. It doesnt help to just stew over it. Good luck.

Sherry xx

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@Former-Member @Anony18 @Shaz51 @Determined @Smc

Just a quickie Ill be back in a bit, just organising some stuff.

@Former-Member Ill post the originals... re Tooky Board over there. Think will make sense then.

@Anony18 That's cr@p. You missing the ball etc, I hope you sort it out one way or another, if you need to vent, please do. Sometimes it can really help in those situations.

@Anony18@Former-Member

One thing that's hard about being close to someone with MI is that there's times when they will say something really hurtful, and you need to find a way to deal with it, while at the same time you know that they either couldn't comprehend how hurtful they were being, or didn't have any real control over their state of mind at the time. My hubby's very supportive, but I have had times when my mother has spoken really harshly towards me or someone else in the family, and I've also seen an "ex-friend" with MI treat us and others in a habitually cruel way.

It's so difficult to put these hurts aside, and it may be that the other person hasn't got the emotional/psychological capacity to talk through and resolve what happened. I don't know whether it's the case with either of you, but sometimes the verbal attack isn't really the fault of the person on the receiving end- the attacker may be transferring their anger, guilt or fear from another situation in their past or present to the person who happens to be closest to them at the current time. I know I've seen that in action. You might need to look deeper than your own relationships to find out the real cause of their anger, and whether they're ready and able to deal with such past sources of pain is another thing again. But regardless, it's possible that any guilt or blame they've laid isn't really yours to carry.

Thanks @Smc for that insight. Yes it is a possibility of course, in fact its quite likely the case. However, as I suffer from PTSD myself, I am just not capable of dealing with that sort of behaviour or personal attacks, when I am struggling badly myself.