Self Harm

huggs @Angels333

@outlander, @Snowie , @Owlunar , @Former-Member

Thanks for your feedback @Snowie and @Angels333 - it's always encouraging to have that

I burned-out when my kids were in primary school and I spent some time in a private psyche clinic and learned so much truth my mother had never taught me. My son was a very troubled child and I was studying my first HSC subject and people thought and never held back in telling me that it was too much and to stop studying - wow - they were so wrong - all the years of studying in my adult life have been invaluable and I don't think I would have done so well without such a self-interest

Some time during those years I told my mother I was emancipated - she laughed at me and told me with a husband and two children I couldn't be - I remember thinking though I told her nothing that she had no concept of what I was talking about.

Emancipation is a state of mind not a state of being.

And yes - I taught my daughter that and she is doing well in the world. I decided so much would stop with my generation and my D and GD and very self-sufficient women and doing well in the world - I am proud of them

As you all know my son didn't make it yet he did leave a gift I would not have had if I had not adopted him and loved him as much as I did - that was to sort out the chaff from the grain in my life and one issue about the others was to sort out that other people's "advice" could be specious - it could look okay on the surface but maybe not so in reality - it's been my life's work and I am really getting into the historical reasons for women being so vulnerable in this world

Unconditional love - for my kids - yes - and also knowing that the thing I wanted most for them was respect for other people - for each other - for me - for their friends, teachers, the law - and less defined - to love themselves

That last one is a hard lesson to teach and a harder one to learn

Thanks both of you

Dec

That's really inspiring @Owlunar especially the emancipation stuff.

I'm feeling really anxious about work tomorrow. I took a med to calm myself but it's not working. I didn't sleep last night as I was feeling sick with fevers and sore throat so am hoping I can fall asleep soon

And something has happened to my settings on the forums I have a black and green background and it's really hard to see. I was thinking that @MDT might be able to tell me how to fix it.

@Shaz51 @outlander @Snowie @Former-Member @Molliex

Hi @Angels333

I hope your day at work goes well and you get over the fever etc and and put your tension aside for the time you are there - I know it's not easy - remembering to breathe while taking in new stuff all day and relatig relating to other people

All the best with that

About your computer - go to Settings -

Then to personalisation

And then I think themes -

I did this to one of my computers once - when it was brand new - and a technician came in to sort out my wireless settings I think - or broadband - I have totally forgotten which - but it was worth the money to pay to have it all sorted out for me.

Emancipation - yes - I will be writing more about this - I would love to write a book on the subject - it would be interesting just writing about it

I really think many women are trapped by generations of faulty perceptions of how things should be and that it so hard - it isn't selfish at all to put ourselves first - if we can do that we can care about other people more through love rather than duty

Boy - I am finding I have my work cut out for me

Dec

All the best at work

Hey @MDT @Owlunar @outlander

It's really weird, I use my phone for sane forums but my phone isn't on night mode, everything else is normal, I am just about to check my chromebook to see if the problem is there too.

The problem is definitely with my phone settings as it's not happening with my chrome book

Fixed it Hams @MDT my phone was on night mode, anyway back to work anxiety is sky high 😭