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Ok I get it now @Ali11

I need to sit down and think I’ll ne back soon with something. Good idea 😊

@Ali11 @BryanaCamp @Bunniekins @Owlunar @Shaz51 @Gazza75 @oceangirl @MDT and others I have forgotten

Letter to my friend:

Having you as a friend means more to me than anything. We can share our journey together. To go through each other’s happiness, sadness and grief. To share thoughts and opinions. To share a cuppa or a glass of wine or two!! A friend is there to help out physically and mentally. Support each other in times of need.

I have a mental illness. Diagnosed with ptsd from childhood sexual abuse; depression, anxiety and borderline personality disorder.

It’s difficult to connect with friends when I’m so down in that dark hole. I want to hide away from life. The motivation is a real struggle. To do anything basic is hard and an effort.

At times all I want to do is shut myself from this world. Don’t want to see or speak to anyone.

At times when struggling mentally all I would love is for you to be there. To sit with me on the floor, to feel your arms around me. I want to feel safe around you. Sometimes you just need to not say a thing. Your presence is enough.

Sometimes it’s nice to receive a text just saying “hi how are you “ or “let’s catch up for a coffee”.

I know you have your own life, you’re busy and time just goes by so quickly.

But we can’t forget our friends.

I would do anything for you. Sit with you, cry and laugh with you. But more importantly I would be there for YOU.

I would drop everything to support you no matter if it’s a physical illness or injury or a mental illness. There is no difference.

Friends are forever. It’s a strong bond between two people. Never forget your friend

❤️❤️💐🙏❤️❤️

That's a good letter @BlueBay

You write very well - you have put together a piece that could be published in a woman's magazine and it does explain what you need and what you are prepared to give - it's very open - and it's honest

I don't have close friends either - I am in touch with my daughter and my grand-daughter and I have my regular domestic and shopping help. I go to my medical clinic twice a week and the local shops where people know me and I get along well with everyone -

But friends - no - I open up with people here and with a couple of my regular workers but apart from that I am alone and luckily that's okay with me -

My parents moved us around a lot when we were young. They never asked us if we wanted to go to the same schools - just uprooted us - I tended to put my emotional energy into making new friends rather than keeping up with people I would never and never did see again. Then I worked in the city for years and just didn't keep in touch

I had friends at church but I left the church - I still have my faith but there came a time when I found it too hard to go because of something that had happened there -

However I am okay with my life and find I have plenty to do at home. The man from My Aged Care who assessed my situation wrote that I am socially isolated and that annoyed me because I don't feel that way - my days are full of reading, writing, internet access and playing the piano - I'm never bored or lonely

There are times when I wish I had a buddy - I have done in the past but things fell apart - chronic pain can be as hard for other people to understand as Mental Illness - people say the same kind of things that seem unkind though I don't think they are meant to be.

Anyway - what I did learn and put into practise for my kids was that we didn't move around - they asked us not too and we listened to them - to this day my daughter has her friends from school and I am glad she does -

And I am okay with my life - when I travel people are amazed that I am travelling alone - it would be great to have someone to travel with but honestly I have learned to be alone and like it - I am into making my own decisions about what to do and when to do it

But this is me - my earlier years were not easy - still have tough bitzpiecez though life - but I am really fine most of the time and like it

Dec

Thankyou for your kind words @Owlunar

Sometimes @Owlunar I wish I was alone. Just make decisions for myself

i never had friends growing up. Was never allowed any to come home to play.

My daughter has a prep friend that are still best friends. So nice to see.

I wish I had a friend like that.

Oh well.

ohhh my sister @BlueBay sending you hugs , that was a good letter

I don't have close friends either and my so called friends , I had lost when i married mr shaz , which is very sad xxx

Hi @Shaz51

I know it’s terrible when you lose your friends especially when getting married.

I’m glad though thst I have lots of friends here. ❤️❤️

same here my darling sister @BlueBay

What a powerful letter @BlueBay, you definitely put what we feel into words. You have such passion, loyalty and emotion that comes through. Those are such ideal traits in a friend.

Thank you so much @Ali11

that means a lot to me.

What I wrote is straight from my heart.

❤️❤️

Often where our best words come from @BlueBay