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that sounds very concerning @Bunniekins . It's good you've done everything you can for now & let the daycare people know. Has he ever acted on his violent thoughts in the past or is this a new thing to express violent thoughts?

Just wondering if there is some history to it what helped in the past? Does he have a pdoc who can review his meds if thi violent thoughts become more frequent & more extreme.

hugs gp, a difficult situation.

@BryanaCamp Hey BryanaCamp thanks for getting back to me so fast. Yes he has acted out before when he has violent thoughts and particularly with this client but with others as well.... including myself in the past. I just dont want him to get into any trouble ....

So do you have any coping strategies to prevent him from acting out @Bunniekins ?

@Bunniekins, it sounds like you have taken reasonable steps to prevent anything from happening. The only thing I can think of quickly would be to try and keep him active phsyically so he maybe doesn't have to much time to ponder these kind of thoughts. When I feel pent up or agressive I take it out on a boxing bag. Skipping is really good exercise and wears you out as well. Can you look for new hobbies or interests to busy him with?

Is his behaviour or thoughts worse since he changed meds? I remember you referring to him as a tornado recently. Maybe you can look at that with doctors or health professionals.

As a mum it is sooo hard to know what to do and who to protect.

@Bunniekins

Feeling for you @Bunniekins Sounds like you've done what you can to inform relevant others about what's going on. Does he have an appointment soon with a pdoc who can review his meds? What a difficult time for you. I went through a few years with my child being violent too, so I think I get how helpless one can feel as the parent in those circumstances. Really hoping he settles soon, you've talked many times about what a sweetie he can be some of the time. Here to support you. Take care.

@Bunniekins That is a very tough situation to be in and i think you are done the right thing contacting the daycare. if he does have history i would really consider seeing if you can get an appointment with his doctor sooner particualrly if he starts expressing these thoughts on a regualr basis just to make sure everything is ok. the other thing i wonder about (and i dont know what the exact situation is with your son2) but does he have trouble expressing himself and his emotions because if he does perhaps finding him a healthy and safe outlet might be helpful i know sometimes people who have trouble expressing their emotions can sometimes lash out in violent ways not because they are a bad person but because they get so frustrated and dont know how else to let it out..... if that is a problem maybe providing him with other ways to deal with it might help ease the tension. I would also look into if there is a specific reason he is having issues with the other client and see if those can be resolved.

also make sure you are taking care of you as well

@Bunniekins

I agree with @Eden1919

As a mum, if you can find a way for him to channel his anger in healthier ways, it would be the best for all. Though I also know it can be hard to preach anger management if the ears are deaf ... so finding ways that they can express all the pent up energy ... LARPING or something cool and active ...

@Appleblossom @Eden1919 @MDT @eth @Gazza75 @BryanaCamp I hope that is everyone ..... I still have the virus so am a bit under the weather. Thank you all for your support I really appreciate it. Son2 was sick yesterday so was super needy and is here with me now so I cannot talk. Just wanted to say thank you for your ongoing care and support. Love peaxxx