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Loneliness

Unknown userMember29 June 2019, 7:58 am AEST

Loneliness

Hi everybody, I'm new here and have been reading posts last night to get me through this cavernous loneliness I'm experiencing. It's a constant spectre and when it is at it's worst, it feels like I'm being swallowed up into an abyss. Everything makes me sad during these episodes, seeing families in the street going out to dinner particularly hits me hard. I've taken to going for walks early in the morning to avoid seeing people as I compare my lack of a life to their seeming inclusion in it, and down the rabbit hole I go. I crave connection and belonging, but at the same time I'm afraid of being overwhelmed by people, which I feel whenever I get too close to anyone. I also am afraid that if they get to know me, they will see that I'm not all together mentally and reject me. Rejection is also a big fear I have which sees me run away from people I feel are getting too close. And then I find myself alone again. This has been a vicious cycle I've been in for decades. How do I learn to feel like a valuable person worthy of friendship? I would like to break this pattern now that I'm aware of it. Thank you.

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Unknown userMember15 July 2019, 10:48 am AEST

Re: Loneliness

@eth I was just recently diagnosed with bipolar 2, in addition to major depression and bpd. I'm still confused about what it all means, which diagnosis is impacting me at any given time. I do know that so far, the antipsychotic meds have really had the best affect on me. I feel more present and able to communicate.

I had to postpone my NDIS meetings a couple of times, that was before starting the antipsychotic meds, as I was so overwhelmed by it. I feel I'm in better shape now to go forward with it although I too struggle with the tech side of filling in and returning the online forms. The medical centre where I go has a social worker so I might ask her for help when I see my doctor on Wednesday.

Im glad you got some rest yesterday, it really makes a big difference when we have difficult tasks to tend to. I was able to make follow up calls ( which I usually put off altogether till it's too late! ) regarding various appointments .

I hope you get that face to face meeting soon, let me know how you go and I'll update how it works out for me. I know they want us to have some goals, so I might work on that today.

It's nice and sunny at the moment ( being Melbourne that's sure to change any second lol) . I'm feeling at ease for a lovely change, so I'll just enjoy that kind of like the weather for now. I hope you have a good day which involves some laughter too. Personally, I get a crack out of reading the comments section of Daily Mail ! 😊