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Topic Tuesday // Caring about, not caring for // Tues 20 Aug, 7pm AEDT

Topic Tuesday // Caring about, not caring for // Tues 20 Aug, 7pm AEDT

In this Topic Tuesday we will be looking at what it’s like to care about someone in your life, even if you aren’t a carer or do not identify as a carer. Maybe your friend is going through a tough time with their mental health and you want to help them? Maybe a family member is struggling and you want to support them as much as you can. We will cover things like how to have a supportive conversation with someone, what can you do if someone doesn’t want help. For those carers that are a bit more informed on these things – please do join us and share your experiences and insights as we knowledge share throughout the night too!

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In response to: Topic Tuesday // Caring about, not caring for // Tues 20 Aug, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring about, not caring for // Tues 20 Aug, 7pm AEDT

Thanks @Former-Member

I can usually pick a good moment or opportunity.

im pretty good at diffusing his rants to when he’s feeling wound up

Its funny how we learn to just deal with it

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Caring about, not caring for // Tues 20 Aug, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring about, not caring for // Tues 20 Aug, 7pm AEDT

I've recently started having more conversations with a parent who has previously been pretty closed off to MH related stuff in the past. Something I found helped a bit was to be open with them about my own experiences with MH challenges. I guess it maybe normalises it a little.

Working out how to go from talking about getting support to actually getting support is the next challenge, but it's a start maybe

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Caring about, not caring for // Tues 20 Aug, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring about, not caring for // Tues 20 Aug, 7pm AEDT

@Former-Member letting people know you are there and thinking of them is a good one - sometimes a person we care about may not be ready to say what they are feeling so its just good to let them know and reminding them that you are there for whenever they need.

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Caring about, not caring for // Tues 20 Aug, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring about, not caring for // Tues 20 Aug, 7pm AEDT

@Former-Member

Sitting next to my husband , not saying anything

Holding his hand , just letting him know I am there for him

And sometimes he will open up

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring about, not caring for // Tues 20 Aug, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring about, not caring for // Tues 20 Aug, 7pm AEDT

@Shaz51 that's lovely. Sometimes silent sitting is just the thing that's needed. Lucky Mr Shaz ❤

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring about, not caring for // Tues 20 Aug, 7pm AEDT

Hi @Former-Member + everyone

Other than supporting my darling with BPD we are both now supporting darlings Dad.

I had a discussion with Dad recently about getting him an alert pendant to wear after having to go looking for him 😕 😢

Thankfully he was able to see this as enabling independence rather than taking it away something that has been preventing me from having the discussion.

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring about, not caring for // Tues 20 Aug, 7pm AEDT

@outlander great tips! Trying not to put pressure on someone to talk is good. While it sounds easy when its someone we love having a hard time, it can be so easy to get a bit swept up and try to get them to talk to us- has anyone else had that kind of experience?

@Georgie_Girl if you feel comfortable sharing, what kind of words on sentences have helped diffuse your loved one? No pressure though!

@CheerBear thats quite brave of you - it is so powerful to be able to let people know you have had experiences which can help them feel less alone too.

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring about, not caring for // Tues 20 Aug, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring about, not caring for // Tues 20 Aug, 7pm AEDT

Welcome @Determined - great to have you here. Also good that you had a conversation around that that was well recieved, thanks for sharing 😊

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring about, not caring for // Tues 20 Aug, 7pm AEDT

@CheerBear , @Former-Member it was hard at first, when Mr shaz finally spoke , I would start to cry

A lot better now as I got over the guilt about is it what I did

Now I know better xx

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Caring about, not caring for // Tues 20 Aug, 7pm AEDT

lovely @Shaz51
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