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RasberryCupcakeSenior Contributor
Hi all,
I'm struggling really badly today .. I just feel as if no-one loves or care about me. I feel so alone and lost in my own saddness, and afraid that I'll never make it out of this dark hole that is my life. I'm tired of crying but I can't stop. I really don't know what to do or how I can move forward with my life .. I feel as if I'm stuck in second gear. I'm scared that things will never change for me, ever.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Ali11Senior Contributor
Sending love @RasberryCupcake 
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RasberryCupcakeSenior Contributor
hi @Serenity1
It's difficult dealing with narcisists, particularly when everything they do is always behind your back - mostly, you don't even know what's going on until strange things happen to you. Things like people's attitudes and avoidance from people. It's psychologically damaging for the victims and destroys people's social, work and intimate lives. As a result of what my sister has done, I've lost all the above, she's destroyed and taken away everything that meant anything to me. I really hate her. And, when you try to tell people what's really going on or when you act out when youve had enough, they call you 'nuts', 'crazy' or 'mental' and you should be hospitalised!!
I'm sorry too, that you went through with your mother and step dad - I feel greatly for you. I really do. 😞 but at least you didn't have the CAT team falsifying your medical records .. I did (thats another level of distress I just didn't need)
And, yes I have been estranged from her for a couple of years now since she broke up my relationship. It's something I realised that I needed to do in order to 'heal' or 'recover'. The journey has been very lonely as much as it has been depressing. They don't change, they lack empathy and they will continue to head - nick you just for their satisfaction. They don't tire from their games. I wonder whether there is anything victims can do to stop this from happening? Like an intervention order of some description. Emotional pain in law is one that is hard to mediate upon.
@Serenity1 , are you any closer to setting things right with your son? and, why has it been so long since you've realised his attitude changed towards you? I guess thats a silly question, as everybody's circumstances are different.
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RasberryCupcakeSenior Contributor
Hey @outlander ,
I'm doing ok i guess - i had another cry today, just sick to death of crying all the time. My eyes are sore and puffy. But yea, I'm glad I've joined this forum, it's been a life-saver, literally. 🙂
How are you?
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RasberryCupcakeSenior Contributor
Thank you for your support and kind words @Fracture 🙂 Enjoy your evening.
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RasberryCupcakeSenior Contributor
@Ali11 air hugs xx
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Serenity1Senior Contributor
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RasberryCupcakeSenior Contributor
@Serenity1
Wow, I got teary reading your story...I can relate with the manipulations, brainwashing, lies and agressive personalities around you. Stay strong for you and your daughter, sweetie - you're doing so well. 🙂
It IS hard for another person to truly understand where you are coming from and what you're saying is even the TRUTH unless they have experienced it for themselfves. Usulaly, everything you say is indeed the absolute truth but at times it seems so far-fetch that people do name call you as 'mental' or 'crazy' - and that is so not the case.
Re-read my story and you'll get it - the CAT team did many other terrible things to me but I'm not sure I can say it here on the forum for fear I might get kicked off. I need this forum to stay strong.
All my love - air hugs xx
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Serenity1Senior Contributor
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RasberryCupcakeSenior Contributor
Hi
@Serenity1sorry for the delayed response. Thanks for your message & kindness 🙂 xx
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