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Topic Tuesday // Being a male in a caring role // Tues 25 June, 7pm AEST

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Topic Tuesday // Being a male in a caring role // Tues 25 June, 7pm AEST

Identifying as being in a caring role, particularly as a male can be a little challenging at times. As our special guest @Greg_MenCareToo for this event from Men Care too mentions “Caring and nurture are characteristics not often associated with males but every man has a different experience and unique responsibilities in life. The same can be said when it comes to the caring role.”

We are really excited to make the most of the Topic Tuesday event to explore the feelings around identity, challenges and communication when it comes to being a male in a caring role or being a carer who understands the challenges and can offer those insights to others too.

We welcome all of the community, male or not to share their perspectives and insights!

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Greg_MenCareTooSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Being a male in a caring role // Tues 25 June, 7pm AEST

To expand on the topic of invisibility of carers, this could also include other demographics like Indigenious, Culturally and Linguistically Diverse and Seniors who are caring for spouses. Are there any other groups people can think of who are not well recognised?

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Greg_MenCareTooSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Being a male in a caring role // Tues 25 June, 7pm AEST

@eth thanks for sharing this, it still get tounge tied and draw a blank sometimes when I'm asked what I do, I love that you try using humour it can help break the ice

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Greg_MenCareTooSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Being a male in a caring role // Tues 25 June, 7pm AEST

@JMRD Exactly, respecting that each person and their circumstance is different is important. I feel like there are many who are quick to judge others and that makes it hard to be comfortable and honest talking about these topics with people sometimes.

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NinoCasual Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Being a male in a caring role // Tues 25 June, 7pm AEST

@Greg_MenCareToo I think young carers or individuals who became carers at a young age for parents/loved ones are not well recognised

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Unknown userMember

Re: Topic Tuesday // Being a male in a caring role // Tues 25 June, 7pm AEST

So as we get towards the end of the evening - an important thing to do is share some tips between each other! @JMRD @MrDad @Nino @Adge @eth @Shaz51 @Determined @MDT (hope I got everyone!!)

What three tips about caring for someone would you have liked to have known earlier on? Sharing some insight would be helpful to those new to a caring role, or those deep into a caring role might benefit from collecting other tips here!

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MrDadContributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Being a male in a caring role // Tues 25 June, 7pm AEST

I have friends in the LGBTQI+ community. From what I have heard and experienced through them in caring roles it can be doubly hard. There still is stigma surrounding their labels although it really shouldn't matter. For the most it does. Anecdotally it has been older generations that have the biggest issues. That said, there are people in every generation that are very accepting and also the opposite. My kids god father came out when I asked him to take the role. He wanted to be assured that I was Ok with it. He has been the best god father I could have ever had. What he aligns with within the LGBTQI+ community has not made any difference.

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ethSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Being a male in a caring role // Tues 25 June, 7pm AEST

With regard to men in GBTIQA+ caring roles the one thing I have seen is that it's much harder for them to get compassionate leave from employers.

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MrDadContributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Being a male in a caring role // Tues 25 June, 7pm AEST

My number one tip. Look after yourself. Unless you are at your best you can't give your best to those you care for.

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Greg_MenCareTooSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Being a male in a caring role // Tues 25 June, 7pm AEST

Just three @Former-Member ? I’m sure there would be a whole set of instructions we could come up with but us blokes are not well known for reading instructions so I think three tips is a good idea

Don’t think you need to do everything. It is important to give the person you care for as much independence as they are able to manage and frees you up to do other things.

Join a group, in person or online. The knowledge and information that people in similar situations share can give you ideas and strategies to best manage your caring responsibilities.

Stay connected with your mates or make some new ones. There is overwhelming evidence that having a few close mates is good for your physical and mental health, this is probably the most important tip I can offer.

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NinoCasual Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Being a male in a caring role // Tues 25 June, 7pm AEST

1.Build a solid support network, even if its not family or friends
2.speak up as much as you can about what's happening inside for you
3.practice as much self care as you can, its not being selfish to take care of yourself too
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