Relationships and Trust

Hi @YellowbrickRoad

I have had two long term relationships in my life and a marriage is harder to get out of but having done that once leaving the guy - who was pretty harmless except for his moods - was easier because I had my own place and warned into keeping that because of how hard it was to get out of a marriage

Yes - if you feel like this it's time to bite the bullet and leave - we do not need to have anyone pulling us down - we have enough to deal with

I have said to many of my female friends - usually younger than myself -

Women and the meat and vegetables in our lives - men are just the dessert

You are worth far more than just being the shape of a person a man thinks he wants

I wish you the best - it won't be easy but worth it and you will look back and wonder why you put up with men like this as long as you did - I know I have thought that

Dec

Thanks so much @Owlunar. It gives an instant confidence boost hearing that.

Building self respect and confidence is something I need to work on. I don't want to waste any more time that is for sure!

That is so great @YellowbrickRoad

You are at the moment of jumping off the high board - why waste time

You have the rest of your life to be who you are and I wish you the very best

Dec

hi @YellowbrickRoad childhood trauma sux. I hate being vulnerable to emotional abusers and manipulators as a result of it.

Unfortunately I don't find it interesting like you, I'm totally over it and bitter about it. I've been working with an emotionally abusive colleague for 12 months and because he played the victim I bought his con for about 6 months. It wasn't until I saw him teasing an intellectually disabled client until she became distrssed that I realised he was a monster. Now I'm stuck with him until I can find a new job & escape which is proving to be very difficult indeed. I may approach my manager about it but because my colleague is such a clever manipulator I'm scared my manager will take his side & not be sypathetic to my suffering, then I will have comprimised my good reputation for nothing. No-one has ever complained about my colleague so I would be the first.

I hope you are not in an emotionally abusive relationship professionally (like me) or romantically. It's hard to know which is worse because at least in a romantic relationship you can end it.