Stressed with work

@NikNik @CherryBomb @Decadian

What do I do?

I have just written down a list of all the jobs that I do at work . It is a very long list.

I have also found out that our new person is getting paid slightly more than me. This is making me feel angry, invalidated and useless. I am angry because if I have to train her I should be getting paid more than her.

Problem is - how do I talk/email my supervisor? I am worried that if and that's a big IF he decides to give me a pay rise then he will give me more work and responsibility. What they have done is the store manager left about 2 yrs ago (before i started) and they never replaced her. So there way is - lets give manager's job to shop girls, pay them less but give them more work.

I can't take all this responsibiity and pressure anymore.

Does anyone have any ideas of how I should tackle this? Any tips would be appreciated.

This is a tough one @BlueBay

i know - and I don't blame you - but you are scared of what might happen if you speak your mind -

But unless you do something you will lose your health and this will be bad for you in every way

And I have noticed you do calm down at weekends and become stirred up at the thought of going back to work -

So if you write down all that you do and ask for more money you might get what you ask for

Or not - and if this happens - and I was in your place - I would gather up all my self-respect and leave

We won't feel any less about you whatever you do - but you must do something - it's hard to tell someone this - but you must do something

Decadian

Thanks @Decadian

This is a tough one, I know. That's why I am so damn scared in doing something. But I have to do something, otherwise I will end up really sick mentally and physically.

I was thinking before that I may even ask my regular therapist for some help and advice as well. I see him this Saturday so I will ask him.

I need as much advice as possible because I have no idea, i am scared. I think I am scared because a few years ago I did ask my manager for a pay rise in accordance with more work than what I was employed. He said okay I will look at this. He came back the next day and said yes I have given you a pay increase. I was so excited, until I got my paslip - all he gave me was an extra 27 cents an hour extra. I was so shocked and angry; I thought to myself after all the work I do for you and you give me 27 cents. After that I did leave for an admin job and my salary was an extra $400 a fortnight.

But also I am scared of leaving, scared of looking for another job again, applying, interviews, starting all over again. I don't have the confidence or the courage or strength to do any of that.

Gee @BlueBay

I am feeling very worried about you - you are so stressed out you are in a really bad place and everything is getting far to hard for you

You must make a decision about all of this - or you will become very sick - living with stress like this is tearing you apart.

When you asked your boss for a rise previously - did you specifiy how much more money you would get? I think you didn't because 27 cents an hour isn't much - but I wouldn't mind and increase of $400,00 a fortnight

Still - you feel undervalued - and that is crappy - and almost an insult to get such a small hourly wage - it does to me

It seems you are in a bind because of things that might or might not happen - and we cannot tell the future - but certain things do happen in this terrible trip through life at times

Take the chance - if you leave the job you are in now and have to look for another one and start again elsewhere - you will be recovered - it will not be what you expect

In fact life rarely is - but I can say this - and it is hard to say

If you don't take control of this situation you will be in hospital - your choices will be taken away because you are heading into exhaustion physically and emotionally - and it seems to me that most of us who are reading and responding are saying the same thing - you need time out

Don't worry about tomorrow - it has enough bothers of its own - but please take control today

It is really hard to write things like this and I would not do it if I did not care -

And an idea just popped into your head - you can apply for sickness benefits - I don't know what that work be money-wise - but it would be enough to get your family through this bad place I am sure

My best wishes

Decadian

Oh @Decadian

I wish I could hug you so much; so sending you a big hug xxx

I was very close to losing it today and tears. I told the pharmacist that I was stressing. with all the work and he said to me to just go easy and do things bit by bit. he told me that i stress too much.

i know tht i do stress and i was looking at all the work i had to do today as huge. But i never got it all done. Tomorrow is my day off and i am goiong to outpatient hospital progam. i cannot wait to go.

I would love to have a few days off but if I do this week it means I won't have any sick leave left for when i go into hosptial. I just don't know what to do.

I still feel that hospital will be a good break; it will be a circuit breaker. I think i will ring my psych tomorrow or even have a chat with one of the pyschologists at the hospital tomorrow.

It happens every week when at work there is something so stressful that i don't or can't cope.

And having a new worker is really hard because i have to train her. Every 5 minutes she is calling me. I feel that i am not getting anything done.

I do feel that i am about to break, crack up and lose it. I feel that there is just too much going on.

@Decadian I am just so over it; I am over all this stress. I still have a terrible headache.

@BlueBay

Yes - I think it is a very good idea to have a chat with the people at the out patents department

A break in hospital would be a circuit breaker - and you would be entitled to sickness benefints which would make it easier financially -

So you are teaching a newbie this week - sheesh - I remember when I had a girl from school on work experience for a week - I was ready to screech before I was through

That newbie could be the last straw - every five minutes - she has no experience working in a pharmacy?

Yes - have a good chat with the psyche and the psychologists - you are stressed out - I don't have to back in the threads to know what you have been battling with over the last few weeks

Including the EFTPOS machine - they wouldn't want to ask me to fix that - it would never work again

Grrrrrrr - at your work

And lots of cyber hugs

Decadian