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Narcissistic abuse surviver

Serenity1Senior Contributor

Narcissistic abuse surviver

Why do Narcissistic Abuse Survivors continue to come across or attract narcissits every where they go?

I am convinced the Principal of my daughters school is a Narcissit after today's meeting with him where he tried to Guilt & Shame me about keeping my daughter home from school on Doctors Advice until she goes for her mental health assessment- he tried to gas light me in order for me to REACT in anger to what he was saying- I did not- I kept my cool because I was recognising the signs- in order to distract from a LIE he told me that I caught him out on & told him I don't believe him & he tried to patronise me every time I spoke, saying "JO-come on!" As if what I was saying was crazy & so much more that I can't recall right now as I'm exhausted- but he did get angry when I told him he was trying to persuade me that what my daughter is saying-( she is scared of her teachers, doesn't feel safe in class) was NOT HAPPENING- because he is so charming & good looking you kind of just go into a trance when he talks & accepts whatever he says- but today I was seeing through his charm & who he really was & was calling him out on it & he did not like that one bit-

So why do we continue to attract Narcs if we've been seriously abused our whole life by them- ? Is it the energy we give off?-( I heard this)- or are we just more easily able to recognise them & they are everywhere? 😭

My poor daughter I really don't know what to do for her- stay or go?😭🌺👸🏻💖

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tymeModerator

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Their condition blinds them unfortunately, and in doing so, the leave others shattered @Sophia1 . Hugs @Sophia1 . Sounds so unfair.

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Sophia1Senior Contributor

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I do try @Faith-and-Hope

with everything else going on I just don’t have the energy to look out for them.. once is bad enough.. 3 times???

I am getting to the stage where I am almos wondering about most people

vulnerability returns when struggling with other stuff

..This is draining me now

I best leave it for now so that I can hopefully sleep tonight

Thank you for your support..

please take care of yourself

you have you back now hopefully

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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I was accused of being the abuser and was blocked from speaking to the family doctor about it unless I spoke up in front of “him”. I was told by another doctor in the practice that if it was that bad, I should just leave …. as if ….. all our technology, cars and living environments were under surveillance, and my kids and I under financial controls. The “cement mixer” environment at home eventually caused me to speak up in front of him, but that caused an escalation, and further abuse may stealth ….. leading to a final discard which I am actually extremely grateful for. I think it was the only way out. Even that has taken several more years in legal battles and my kids are not free of the mire …. yet ….

I refuse to make my life about him and what he has done. Take courage @Sophia1. There will be a morning after, even though you can’t see it right now.

Nurture yourself. Breathe. Heal …..

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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Music is a good way of helping your mind rest on other things @Sophia1. I hope you can rest well tonight. Take care of you.

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Sophia1Senior Contributor

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@tyme @Faith-and-Hope

I’m even feeling vulnerable writing here

I am going to stop now

Thank you both so much

please tag me if something comes up with Sane

It is not safe to talk about on peer talk

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Sophia1Senior Contributor

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Yes I listen to music often and cry often

healing tears

thank you@

@Faith-and-Hope

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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I know that feeling of unsafe @Sophia1. Don’t be afraid to edit if you need to. Do what you need to support you.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

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@Glisten , here is another interesting thread for you

@Serenity1 , @Faith-and-Hope , @tyme , @amber22

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GlistenSenior Contributor

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Hi I am new here and a narcissistic abuse survivor.

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amber22Senior Contributor

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Hey there @Glisten

How are you going?

I'm Amber22, it's lovely to meet you, I'm a Peer Support Worker here at SANE.

Please reach out if you need anything at all 🙂

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