Aspie Relationship

Hi, So my wife has had an injury. In typical Aspie fashion, I researched and followed the script to help her through the Hospital experience. Now she is home, the recovery is painfully slow. She is frustrated. I am having to care for her significantly. Our roles have changed. Its been very difficult.

I am becoming very confused about her changed behaviour. Then I get it, a revelation! She is not performing to the script I expect of her. No wonder I am confused as I am dealing with change.

She is not identifiable anymore, a stranger to me. Yes my wife a stranger! But that's being an Aspie. I have to take a breath and realise I am learning a new script. Given the chance the new routines will become familiar. Rather than resist and get upset, I simply observe, think, adapt and act. I have done that all my life so I am very good at it. A master sleuth.

It's ok that the most stable part of my life, a family member is going through change. Scary yes, initially anyway, but when I think about it, not so confronting.