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Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Feeling angry about the injustice of your loved one’s illness, frustrated at the lack of sleep, the accountability of another person's welfare. Perhaps even anger directed at your loved one for becoming unwell in the first place, these are not uncommon feelings when we are managing the ups and downs of life as a carer. In fact they are more common than we realise It's time to reinvent the way we view ourselves as carer's, to discuss the manifestation of carer's guilt in a safe and gentle space.

Join us here on Tuesday April 23rd as our Community Manager @Former-Member facilitate's a discussion around working through guilt as a carer.

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In response to: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

@Determined thank you for sharing, is the reason being that you feel you cannot communicate with parties involved? As in you're not being heard? When you have a chance feel free to start a thread or let us know what's going on for you My next discussion point (the final for the night) will be resource and strategy so check back in, and maybe your peers will have some insight on communication too. Sending love, and if you have time this week definitely consider a new discussion around this here so we can get you some ongoing virtual peer support.

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

@Former-Member

with my mum ,--- during the week I am in and out doing things for mum many times everyday but every wednesday I clean her house and have morning tea with her and talk together on how we are both both travelling..-- ( this helps also for upcoming appts , ect )

With my mr shaz , ----- we try to touch base with each other , how we are both travelling , I am still learning , depends on the days, situations , how unwell mr shaz feels

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

So cool to hear of this routine you have set up with your Mum @Shaz51 May seem small but in my view, very important in the long run. And good point re: Mr. Shaz it's always good to consider the environment and what's going on with our loved one's mental health symptoms amidst considerations. Even so, I think it is important to instill some kind of regular catch up with them, if time allows of course

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Hi Carmello & everyone,

Agree with others about guilt when out enjoying myself (taking care of my own mental health). But also feel guilty about so many other things.

What have I contributed to the illness ? Would my child not have to go through this if she would have grown up in a different family ? If I had protected her more, esp. from peer pressure & drug culture ?

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Hi everyone,

My first time.

Better late than never

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

hello @Cazlyn , @Silvy15 and welcome

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

7pm came & went... I had to alert a relative of a possible medication mis-use. I didn't want to feel any guilt that I hadn't done all I could to catch a problem or stop from getting worse.

Am getting better with guilt I think.

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

@Former-Member communication about how I am feeling is usually received as a personal attack somehow.

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Hey @Cazlyn Welcome and very true! You've ducked in just in time for our last question, which I will post in a few more minutes 🙂 Thanks for stopping by this eve 😄

@Silvy15 Very easy to reflect in this way, however just the fact that you're reflecting on this at all shows you are a loving parent, one who genuinely wants your child to succeed in their recovery journey. There are many parents, especially those in the complex mental health realm, who do not accept their children's diagnosis sometimes stigmatising them further. So kudos to you for being able to reflect, and please know you are not alone

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Working through feelings of guilt // Tues 23 Apr, 7pm AEDT

Hey @Bea Totally understandable, thank you for stopping by though - I do hope this thread has some useful insight for you

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