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Mindfulness Meditation

Mindfulness Meditation

This is a thread about Mindfulness meditation. I encourage you all to ask questions if you are new to it, or to share your own experiences and thoughts about it.

For me, Mindfulness is an increasingly important part of my life, and one of the most effective coping mechanisms I have...

My introduction to the Westernised concept of Mindfulness started with a book called "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. It's even available as an audio book, read by the man himself. Once you get past the funny German accent and the calm voice that sounds like he swallowed a fistful of diazepam half an hour before the recording session, it's a great way to consume his words. I used to listen to it in the car on the way to work or, even better, on public transport.

Mindfulness, simply put, is making sure that you are "right here, right now". It is a form of meditation, a way of appreciating and experiencing the world around you. Forget about your past or your future. Focus on this "Now" moment that is actually the only moment that will ever exist. Observe and experience the sensations of tasting this apple, or looking at that drop of dew sparkling in the morning sun.

I have been gradually increasing my mindfulness meditation to the point where it is a major part of my every day. For me, meditation should not be about sitting uncomfortably cross-legged for 30 minutes a day at 9:30 each morning, chanting a calming mantra and focusing on emptying my mind. That doesn't work for me. Meditation is simply living life in the now, without all of the constant chatter of my thoughts and emotions distracting me, flitting around like butterflies. Meditation can be practised at any time in any place. You can be standing in a crowded noisy train getting bounced this way and that, and still be meditating.

Meditation is calmness. It energises you. It relaxes you. It increases your resilience. It improves your focus. It allows you to cope. It makes you appreciate life on so many more levels than you ever thought possible. It is the single most important wellness strategy that I have.

The whole concept of time is just about the biggest enemy of Mindfulness. It's all about the Now moment. Time as we know it so often disregards the Now moment. We're so busy with the swirling churning thoughts in our head, worrying about deadlines or possible problems in the future, or caught up in guilt and other baggage from the past, that there is no possible way we are ever going to succeed in being Mindful or truly present in the Now...

That's the whole point of Mindfulness. Calm the thoughts and emotions tearing you away from what you are doing, sensing and feeling right at this very moment.

Your thoughts will be going "I don't have time for this. There's an exam coming up. I need to put the bins out tonight. Is it recycling week? What are we going to have for dinner? I need to go shopping. Damn! I forgot to call grandma again. She must really hate me. I hope Aunty Beryl is going to be okay..." and so on and so on and so on... thoughts, thoughts, thoughts... dragging us away...

Did you even taste that strawberry? Did you even notice that you ate it? It's gone down your gullet and you forgot to enjoy it. There is a moment of pleasure in the Now, gone. And now you feel bad about failing to be Mindful, and that then drags you away from the next strawberry...

I won't say Mindfulness is an easy thing to do at first, even though it's actually the easiest thing in the world to do. Young children do it instinctively. But we have spent a lifetime becoming indoctrinated and enslaved by our inner world of thoughts, and there is much to unlearn, much inner turmoil to still, before we can naturally and easily enter a state of Mindfulness meditation, even in a crowded noisy room...

It's well worth the effort. It's a game changer...

I will structure my thoughts some more, and write further posts on Mindfulness shortly. I wrote some things about it on another forum that I feel capture it well, so I need to find them.

Also, I am now going to go for a morning walk down on the esplanade by the water, putting Mindfulness into practice. Many hugs and happy vibes beaming to you all... 🙂

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Dear Everyone. ('specially @Silenus)

i am not cut out to meditate. I do practice presence and being int he now as much as I can - I was finding it hard to explain what happens to me when I try to do a sitting meditation and this little animated gif explains it perfectly.

https://45.media.tumblr.com/387f25d5ad37ccb6ac6ce09d036bc3aa/tumblr_o6ddhi7Xgd1tpv8gqo1_540.gif

Me. Meditating.

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Hahaha... great little animation @MoonGal

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Have you tried sitting in a comfortable armchair, eyes shut, breathing deeply and quietly while listening to relaxing music through a good pair of headphones? That can be very close to meditation. As you listen to the music your mind drifts away into a kind of light sleep. Of course not for everyone but it could work for you if you give it a try.

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Yes @theaveragejoe I have tried that. I often just sit and put some soft relaxing music on and close my eyes. Sometimes I 'float' away with the sounds. It is really nice 🙂

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Mindfulness meditation has been one of the most valuable tools i have come across. I swear by it. At the moment I am quite low because of whats going on and mothers day, but I am looking at this as an opportunity to practice overcoming with mindfulness meditation. I may be sad but I am not suffering. Mindfulness kind of brings emotional comfort.

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This is great @Former-Member (not that you are low, but that you are coping).

My highs and lows don't have as much power to hurt me as they used to. I feel that Mindfulness has greatly improved my resilience...

Hugs and happy vibes beaming to you... 🙂

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Does mindfulness help us to cope with depressed people? How long it takes?

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i think it builds patience and tolerance. maybe makes you more relaxed and chilled out, you pretty much train yourself in meditation to observe thoughts and not react, it works well when not meditating too.

you can start with a few minutes, there's no set time. i used to find the first 5 minutes could be patchy before i settled into a zone. about 20 mins worked well for me,

i've been slack with it and haven't done it regularly, only guided meditations. they can be a good place to start but i like to know what im getting first

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Hi @nicoleclark 🙂

Interesting question! Even though I'm in the thick of it as a person with bipolar who has years and years of real lived experience with depression, I still feel lost and unsure and deeply troubled when a friend or a loved one is suffering from depression. I have even felt impatient about getting the "old them" back to the "normal" world from their depressed state. I miss who they are when they are "normal" (hah! Whatever that means... 🙂 ). I worry deeply for their safety and wellbeing...

It's a very difficult thing to be going through depression. What us "sufferers" often forget though, is that it is also a living hell for our loved ones who patiently nurture and worry and wait for the depression to hopefully lift, sooner rather than later...

At the moment, I have a very close friend whom I love deeply. She is one of the warmest and most caring and articulate people I know... when she isn't depressed. Unfortunately she suffers from lengthy depressions of a year or more sometimes, and retreats totally from contact and communication during these times.

I haven't heard a peep from her in just over a year. It tears me apart. I keep sending warm, caring, loving, understanding messages, and I keep being gentle and supportive... and I keep hearing nothing...

I'm good friends with her neighbours, and they keep an eye out for her - the bins still go out on bin night, and that sort of thing - the occasional short furtive chat over the fence - so I know she is still with us.

So, @nicoleclark - I understand the impatience and desire to get someone back from the clutches of depression. Even with meds and therapy and all the right stuff, it can take months, even years. But I want my friend back now! 😞

And that is where Mindfulness comes to help me. As @plasmo said, it builds tolerance and patience. It calms you down. It allows you to feel all of these intense feelings - impatience, grief, guilt, anger, fear, and all the others - without getting swept away by them.

You learn to observe the feelings inside you, without reacting intensely and strongly to them. It's like being hit by a ton of bricks, but you step aside at the last moment and observe the bricks crashing down on the spot where you were just standing...

Mindfulness is about the Now moment - not the fears and problems and intense feelings of the past or future. It is about accepting "what is", and about seeing a deep insight into what you have the power to change, and what you have no power to change. Having this insight, there is no uncertainty or anxiety or fear or pain - you apply action to change the things within your power to change, and you patiently accept the things you have no power to change...

It removes a lot of pain and conflict from our lives, by coming to the understanding that much of that underlying pain and conflict is generated by ourselves, within ourselves as a reaction to outside events - and that inner reaction is something we have the power to control...

Mindfulness brings about a great sense of peace, and vastly increases our resilience and ability to cope. It is not just for people with mental health issues. It can help every human being to greatly improve the quality of their lives.

To me, Mindfulness is not a structured form of meditation where you sit down cross-legged and try to empty your mind. Mindfulness is a different way of viewing the world and of reacting to it. It is a way of life that stops you being a slave to the psychological concept of time - with all of time's inherent worry and doubt and guilt and fear and frustration and anger and other emotional turmoil...

Quite simply, Mindfulness is life, with all of the silly harmful stuff we normally project onto it removed...

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Hi Silenus,

for depression to last a year, that is a concern. I had a friend like that and thank goodness she changed.

We do tend to worry when our friends get sick, SIlenus, we can feel hopeless as if we are somehow part of the problem.

In my particular case I went to her place and, because she also was not opening or answering the door to anyone, I made sure to catch her when she was going out to check her mail.

I stopped her and I said: "I need to talk to you". At that moment I did not know what kind of rubbish I was going to tell her but I had to try. I had to make up something quick before she told me to get lost.

Electricity came to mind. Strange. and I said to this friend:

Consider the electricity, it has a positive and negative charge. Without the negative there cannot be any positive. We need both to get some current.

It is the same for us: we have depression and normality, or contentment, or happiness, or whatever you want to call it.

I find that from my depression, very ofte,n great things come out, not while I am depressed but after. And I also find that if I really struggle I can beat the depression. I mean the depression may be there but it does not stop me.

And lastly, I said to this friend: "no matter if you are depressed or not, I still need to hear from you that you are OK. I don't mind if you are all negative or talk about negative things or don't want to talk or want to keep to yourself. It does not take long for you to send me one or two lines even to just say Hello, talk to you in a few days.

Anyway, with great luck this really worked.

I feel that people want to know that we will accept them as they are, depression or not, and that depression is not all bad. When they hide that is when they need us most. There are positive sides to the depression, believe it or not.

I am not sure if she bought what I said to her, probably not. But what worked is that she knew I really cared for her to go there to see her, a fair distance from where I lived. This worked.

Maybe you should go and see her, Silenus, if you can.

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