Not sure what to do !!!

Hi @Shaz51

atm I don't think it's a question of what your mother wants - it's rather how much more "WORK" you can really do and still be there for you Mum emotionally

So - if it was me - which it never was for my parents - I would imagine that the suggestions about what your mother NEEDS is important - and then you can fill in the edges about what your mother WANTS - which would be better - if a lot of the heavy stuff was taken off your shoulders

I am glad you are getting so much support from the forum - people are saying similar things - this is a really hard time for you - I guess it always is with independent people - I think my daughter might have to deal with an independent mother as well but then - I accept all the domestic, assisted shopping and social visits I have in place

Thinking of your Shaz

Dec

ohhhhhh @Owlunar , @Jacques , @Appleblossom , @Bunniekins , @Former-Member , @Former-Member , @outlander , @Adge , @Faith-and-Hope

ohhhh I do not like unexpectanted phone calls -- today was a referral for mum to see and go to a memory clinic

Ah @Shaz51

Do not despair - this might turn out to be a really good thing

Do you think your mother is forgetting things?

My Dad lost his short-term memory in the last years of his life - it was awkward for those who had to deal with him but I didn't worry myself as enough people were worried

I just enjoyed Dad and reminded him of the things he enjoyed in his past - and his long-term memory was intact

Maybe this will work out well - I hope so

Dec

ohhh @Owlunar

they rang mum up and she cancelled the memory clinic appt

and then they rang me after

Oh @Shaz51

Oh dear

What to do - what to do - aw ShazDec

been raining here soo much all day @Former-Member

no work today

I cleaned mum`s house

the Nurse , the physio and meals on wheels came today

everything back on track again for the team except for the memory clinic which I am leaving until later

and now I am sure I have a sprained ankle

hello @Owlunar , @Jacques , @Appleblossom , @Bunniekins , @Former-Member , @Faith-and-Hope

@Shaz51 hugs and hugs Shaz51. Have you got an ice pack in the fridge? and elevate xxx

thanks my super @Bunniekins , I did that earlier , will do it again

how was your walk xoxo

yes @Shaz51 - that's a sprained ankle

Sorry about that

Dec

@Shaz51 my early morning walk was beautiful :). could see the stars and the moon plus the lights on the bay. Very special. I wen't later and it was a slog as it was quite hot but am determined to shed the weight so off I trotted sweating and huffing but did the 1 hour lap. So am exhausted but happy with that.

You must be very fit Shaz51 with all your cleaning and work that you do for your mum.