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Not sure what to do !!!

Shaz51Senior Contributor16 Mar 2019, 7:17 pm AEDT

Not sure what to do !!!

Got a question , a problem , kind of ?? @Former-Member , @Appleblossom , @outlander , @Determined , @Faith-and-Hope , @Jacques , @PeppiPatty , @Owlunar , @Sophie1 , @Sophia1

unsure what to do as mum has been in hospital for nearly 4 weeks so far after her hip surgery and as well as having reoccurring bowel obstructions

mr shaz and my cousins think my mum is scared of going back to her house

been getting the house rearranged and sorted for her to come back home

I have been visiting her everyday and sometimes I wonder if she is developing dementain

got a transistion appt to develope a home plan for the near future , I am asking my aunty to be there with me

I sometimes think she is not ready to go home

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fluffylightSenior Contributor18 Sept 2023, 7:43 pm AEST

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Both sound like a nice way to care for yourself @Shaz51

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Shaz51Senior Contributor18 Sept 2023, 7:49 pm AEST

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Still a bit worried inside @fluffylight

Hoping I can get some sleep tonight xx

I am sure Mr shaz will be up all night tonight

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fluffylightSenior Contributor18 Sept 2023, 7:54 pm AEST

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Hugs to you @Shaz51

Sleep will be good, you are holding a lot 💛

I hope Mr Shaz will be able to get sleep too

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StuFSenior Contributor18 Sept 2023, 7:55 pm AEST

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Oh @Shaz51

Sending Heaps of z's your way. Hopefully you can catch some 🙂

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Shaz51Senior Contributor18 Sept 2023, 7:56 pm AEST

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Me too @fluffylight 🤞

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Shaz51Senior Contributor18 Sept 2023, 7:57 pm AEST

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Thanks @StuF 🙂

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor18 Sept 2023, 8:45 pm AEST

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Hugs @Shaz51 Its hard when people in the house re up all night... Hope you get enough rest.

It was good to see @Jacques Hey ... I identify as aspie.

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OwlunarSenior Contributor19 Sept 2023, 11:10 am AEST

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Hi @Shaz51

No one makes it easy for you - do they Shaz?

Mr Shaz and his ideas - and walking around the house all night - I guess he will if he must - some nights I do - but then - I live alone so who cares?

And your extended family - I get it that you feel lonely after a call from one of them - I bet they have questions but no comfort for you - so alone you feel. Geez - I get that - I understand.

My DVR has broken down and I am sure it's just a cable - I hired all this equipment from a guy for over 40 years - he would come and fix it straight away - or replace it - but - well - as it happens he died earlier this year - and at this point I have no idea what to do about it - and I am not in the frame of mind for anyone to tell me. Therefore - I am not telling my daughter about it -

There are ways and means - so I have been watching the TV which still works - and DVDs and catching up on my computer - so I am not or pining away for the want of the recorder - new ones are outrageously expensive - so yeah - atm - I get by.

I'm writing this to say I get it about family - my daughter has solutions that seem so easy - to me they are not - I'm 80 now so I can plead old age - which is okay - I still have my marbles. And my daughter has her husband - yeah - yeah - yeah - I will do what I want to do when I get near to feeling better after the challenges of the last few months.

So - about family - oh yes - we need them - who would be here without one? But do we need their -------- whatever? I guess not.

We are all here for you though. Tonnes of support here - we love you. And hey - we can walk around all night without disturbing you.

Sending hugs

Mumma Bear

Owunar

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Shaz51Senior Contributor17 Oct 2023, 7:27 am AEDT

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Hello 👋 @hanami

Being soo busy lately , amm missing everyone here

Will be back soon with some updates

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Shaz51Senior Contributor17 Oct 2023, 7:33 am AEDT

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Hello @Emelia8 how are you today

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