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Not sure what to do !!!

Not sure what to do !!!

Got a question , a problem , kind of ?? @Former-Member , @Appleblossom , @outlander , @Determined , @Faith-and-Hope , @Jacques , @PeppiPatty , @Owlunar , @Sophie1 , @Sophia1

unsure what to do as mum has been in hospital for nearly 4 weeks so far after her hip surgery and as well as having reoccurring bowel obstructions

mr shaz and my cousins think my mum is scared of going back to her house

been getting the house rearranged and sorted for her to come back home

I have been visiting her everyday and sometimes I wonder if she is developing dementain

got a transistion appt to develope a home plan for the near future , I am asking my aunty to be there with me

I sometimes think she is not ready to go home

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One day at a time is certainly the best way to navigate this, but please don't feel like you were over reacting – if my loved one was removed from a hospital and moved to another without any communication, I'd be pretty upset too. Your feelings are completely valid, that's all I wanted to say @Shaz51, that and I hope you're doing okay 💛

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Thank you @Former-Member ❤

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Oh dear @Shaz51

Have just read back several pages and cannot believe what your mother has been though.

This in turn being such a shock for you and Mr Shaz.

The doctor patient information scenario sounds dreadful and questionable.

Thank goodness you now know where she is and is also closer.

As for being a nobody. Wash your mouth out with soap! I believe is the old fashioned saying.

Meant warm heartedly; that does not come close in describing the caring; warm-hearted; loving soul we have all come to know and love.

Why do we turn on ourselves when life throws up so many challenges time and time again?

I think most of us do and yet we can jump in and tell others not to.

As everyone has already mentioned; as hard as it is; one day at a time.

Good that you can talk to her on the phone. That might be good to keep that up if able and of course if she wants to. She will be feeling very confused and weary as well as dealing with medication; resettling and possible dementia. She possibly will want to sleep a fair bit.

I hope that talking to her on the phone will reassure you in between visits.

Good that you can talk about all of these challenges on here.

Sophia 💜

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Awww thank you my wonderful sister @Sophia1 ❤❤

I think it is easier to put ourselves down then to lift ourselves up

That is why Sane forums are awesome for the support, encouragement to keep on keeping on, uplifting

Mum's nurse said that mum has been a bit confused and has taken 2 days to settle in
She seems a bit better today , still some leg pain
Nurse and I had a chat and I suggested a few things that will help

@Former-Member , @BlueBay , @Faith-and-Hope , @Zoe7 , @tyme

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That is wonderful that you can talk to her nurse @Shaz51

They understand how much she means to you and also how much she has been through; along with yourselves.

Certainly makes a huge difference when people do talk to you

Sophia

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Hugs @Shaz51 ♥️🤗

hi 👋 @Sophia1

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Hello @BlueBay

Nice to see you.

It has been a while.

I have not been able to be on the forums that often or well enough to move around ; find people.

I am starting to feel a little better.

I look forward to saying hello more often.

Take care 💛

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Just feeling sooooooo awwwwwww

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Are you OK @Shaz51 ?

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Hello my @Dimity , how are you my friend xx

I am just feeling I have no control over anything today xx

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