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Not sure what to do !!!

Not sure what to do !!!

Got a question , a problem , kind of ?? @Former-Member , @Appleblossom , @outlander , @Determined , @Faith-and-Hope , @Jacques , @PeppiPatty , @Owlunar , @Sophie1 , @Sophia1

unsure what to do as mum has been in hospital for nearly 4 weeks so far after her hip surgery and as well as having reoccurring bowel obstructions

mr shaz and my cousins think my mum is scared of going back to her house

been getting the house rearranged and sorted for her to come back home

I have been visiting her everyday and sometimes I wonder if she is developing dementain

got a transistion appt to develope a home plan for the near future , I am asking my aunty to be there with me

I sometimes think she is not ready to go home

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hello my awesome sisters @BlueBay , @Emelia8

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I'm glad @Shaz51 you and hubby went away. And good that your cousin and Aunty was in touch with your mum. It's important for you to getaway every now and then.
Giving you lots of love xxxooo

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Hugs my beautiful sis @Shaz51 xxoo

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aww thank you @BlueBay , we have not had one since last year before the fire

how are you tonight xxx

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hello @Adge , @Anastasia , @Sophia1 , @outlander , @BlueBay , @Determined , @Smc , @Jacques , @Zoe7 , @Faith-and-Hope , @Emelia8 , @Owlunar , @Appleblossom , @oceangirl , @Mazarita , @eth , @cloudcore , @Former-Member , @TideisTurning , @Daisydreamer

i ammm feeling soooo arrrrggggg

sometimes it is hard seeing my mum changing in front of my eyes , dementia is not good , I would tag EOR but she is not here and @outlander , i am feeling it for you my sister looking after your pop xoxo

what a terrible week I have had inbetween me not sleeping to well , my mr shaz who get overwelmed with everything

my mum showing more signs of dementia , going to make a bedroom downstairs as mum is having

trouble with the steps but she is so confused and wants everythings in the house in her room

she nearly had a fall this afternoon and she get really angry quickly

amm finding it sometimes soooo hard @Former-Member

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Oh dear @Shaz51

I am so sorry to hear about all that you are going through..

Mr Shaz would bounce off of your worrying as well..

If you say to him that you are okay and are very tired; need rest..would that help?

Has your mum had another assessment recently by someone specialising in the dementia field?

Your mum would struggle with change..

If there are some special ornaments or photographs that you could even ask her to choose with you and place them all around where her bed will be...

Letting her know that she will be safe there and not fall over..

Anger is something that is a part of their frustration and confusion...from dealing with the illness..

She is not really angry with you...

Hard for you to experience it though..

Does your mum like a certain kind of music....or a special dvd?

Family photograph album?

Something you can put on to watch and lay down to rest at same time..

Take care

Sophia

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thank you my @Sophia1

Mum has a daily routine of croosword puzzles, tv , plays her music which is helpful

Mr Shaz would bounce off of your worrying as well..-- very true , my poor darling and he is also very protective of me too which does not help with what mum says -- but i know it is not her

Has your mum had another assessment recently by someone specialising in the dementia field?--- no I think I will need to talk to the doctor soon which mum will not like -- her sister has noticed the difference in her sister

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Thats all so hard to deal with @Shaz51 and must feel very overwhelming at times. Please try your best to take a little bit of time each day to do something you get some joy from doing. Its very important that you dont crash and burn. Some extra TLC for you right now is vital my dear. 😊💖

Hi @Sophia1 🌷

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very true my sister @Emelia8 , i have cried a few times out of the blue and in the middle of the night

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Hi @Shaz51. I'm so glad you reached out. Dementia can be such a roller coaster. So many changes and challenges with regulating emotions that naturally impact our own emotional state when supporting a loved one. I hope you have some supports around you and you're mum to help you both through. Along with finding small moments to yourself to recharge where you can to get through this journey. Were here for you @Shaz51.
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