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Not sure what to do !!!

Shaz51Senior Contributor16 Mar 2019, 7:17 pm AEDT

Not sure what to do !!!

Got a question , a problem , kind of ?? @Former-Member , @Appleblossom , @outlander , @Determined , @Faith-and-Hope , @Jacques , @PeppiPatty , @Owlunar , @Sophie1 , @Sophia1

unsure what to do as mum has been in hospital for nearly 4 weeks so far after her hip surgery and as well as having reoccurring bowel obstructions

mr shaz and my cousins think my mum is scared of going back to her house

been getting the house rearranged and sorted for her to come back home

I have been visiting her everyday and sometimes I wonder if she is developing dementain

got a transistion appt to develope a home plan for the near future , I am asking my aunty to be there with me

I sometimes think she is not ready to go home

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Unknown userMember23 May 2021, 7:42 pm AEST

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There's a lot on your plate @Shaz51. I really don't blame you for feeling so lost. It's probably good to pause and think about what you need right now.

Whenever I feel overwhelmed and have a lot on my mind I like to use the 'right now' strategy. I will repeatedly say to myself 'right now I am drinking tea' or 'write now i'm watching this show'.

What are you doing this evening?

Sphinxly 💞

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Shaz51Senior Contributor23 May 2021, 7:48 pm AEST

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What are you doing this evening?--- sitting in bed with my laptop @Former-Member feeling a bit arrrggggg

but will make a cuppa soon for my frail mum and me and hopefully have some sleep xoxo

mr shaz is nearly ready for bed and not going to answer any more of his questions -- not tonight xxx

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Zoe7Senior Contributor23 May 2021, 8:02 pm AEST

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@Shaz51 You are being pulled in different directions by everyone and having no time to actually think yourself - that is sooo hard. Having pressure placed upon you is not what you need my sister Sitting with you

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SmcSenior Contributor23 May 2021, 8:03 pm AEST

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@Shaz51, hope you can all settle enough to sleep. I know that feeling of too much.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor23 May 2021, 8:06 pm AEST

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very true @Smc , @Zoe7 , tears in my eayes now because of the pressure xoxo @Former-Member

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Zoe7Senior Contributor23 May 2021, 8:08 pm AEST

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Oh @Shaz51 Feeling for you

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Unknown userMember23 May 2021, 8:15 pm AEST

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Sitting with you @Shaz51 🧡

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Shaz51Senior Contributor23 May 2021, 8:22 pm AEST

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thank you @Former-Member , @Zoe7 , @Smc , @BlueBay , @MDT

i just dont want to think about anything anymore for a lonnggg whileeee

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JacquesSenior Contributor23 May 2021, 8:27 pm AEST

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Hugs my beautiful @Shaz51 maybe a cup of tea and a long soak in a bath, do something nice for you, gentle hugs my friend. I'm sitting with you too. Hereto listen

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Shaz51Senior Contributor23 May 2021, 8:28 pm AEST

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good night @Former-Member , @Zoe7 , @Smc , @BlueBay , @MDT , @Emelia8 , @TAB , @Meowmy

going to try and sleep now xoxox thank you evryone

wiil talk again tomorrow xx

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