when I get into the self involved its everyone else stuff @Former-Member sometimes realise I have a part in it and I sometimes ask myself what a confident, responsible, well, normal person would do eg brother in law as much as it grates
..and I know you have 'stuff' I haven't seen or had to try and deal with, and it has names. diagnoses etc ..but try to think of You .. or the other one used to try, well when removed from situations was Mrs So and So's son does not deserve this and well, remove any guilt etc ..try to 'let go' .. busy always helps .. when in work mode when things 'working' it shuts everything else out, just do things as did in past, better times, just comes out at best .. demons ..don't need em ..yet they crop up ..can say 'hello' to bad feelings and put them away maybe .. or God doesn't want that for Bridget etc .. re getting away from own crappy feelings that come up .. just saying.. no obligations here, just throwing it blindly out there ..with good wishes ..