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GonePirateSenior Contributor
i encourage you all to join me for some casual drinking, social lubrication and light laughter right here in the beer garden.
Oh and before anyone gets up in arms about alcohol and its dangers the main beer on tap is VB or virtual beer
beer is the third most commonly consumed drink in the world behind water and tea
why not share the worlds joy with friends
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DecadianSenior Contributor
Hi @Former-Member
It's so good to be back in the website - I missed everyone
And I am also glad your mastitis is clearing up - cabbage leaves or not - I read a lot of stuff for and against - ambiguous comments - eg - rather against antibiotics - because the baby gets them in the breast milk - ah - I thought - if the baby is drinking breast milk from a sore and infected breast a few antibiotics would most likely not do any harm - what is a nursing mother supposed to do? Take in limited items of all sorts and conditions - we all evolve along with the rest of creation..
Anyway - cliques - I have never understood why people form groups like that? I grew up on a police station - I was different - I didn't get in with those people who have secret rules - I was popular enough with my friends though they were few. There are people who do not want their children playing with the policeman's dubious offspring
However - in Year 10 the teacher gave the Form Captain a ticking-off and I remember turning around and staring. The teacher said she was popular and a leader and needed to set an example. I had not heard the term "clique" then - but I saw the captain and her buddies were pretty ordinary. I never saw them as anything interesting. I never wanted to be one of them. It was one of those "aha" moments in my life and I have thought about it often.
But I love it that you are a "mixed bag of eccentricities" - How wonderful!!. I guess your partner can cope with that and you can rely on him - even if you are fiercely independent. You have young children - you need help with them - that's why children normally have two parents.
I am pretty eccentric myself - my aim in life was to become an eccentric old lady like my grandmother - a friend told me I was already eccentric - I have made it up to the old part - yet dunno about being a lady. I have learned to stand alone though - but let's think about the gypsies - I have been a single mother since dd was 17 - I think I embarrass her at times - but as long as I don't embarrass myself.
The only time I drank too much was when I was alone on holidays - I didn't know the cocktail was that strong - it was a fantastic drink - luckily I only drank half of it. I haven't kept contacts as I have moved on in life - I put my energies into the new people I meet -
It's is pretty wonderful being a bit different
Dec
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
I agree @Decadian ..... it is pretty wonderful to be a bit "different" ....
I have something of a chameleon quality .... probably from growing up travelling around and needing to make new friends all the time .... you sort of learn how to match your new surroundings a bit, and take on the social behaviours of those you want to "make it" with .... but you're exactly right .... ❣ ..... even as a child I remember having those significant "a-ha" moments of recognising that I didn't actually like some of the social behaviours of others around me, or even their personalities perhaps ..... and did I really want to fit in enough to compromise my own authenticity and / or integrity ?
Very short answer - no ❣
So .... in the absence of any other company .... it means coming to terms with self-care as a priority .... and in essence becoming your own best friend ....
Amongst others, I think you and @Former-Member are front-runners in this arena .... showing the rest of us how it's done ....
❤️💕
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Whoops ....
Hi @Former-Member @Former-Member ...... 😊
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TABSenior Contributor
@Former-Member ..the good people stay and the others fade away, some quicker than others, if they were ever 'there'.. am still in touch with someone went to school with, others came and went, there's a guy who pulled the absolute 'P' out of me at work nine years ago, we kept meeting up on jobs and things settled down and became friends, caught up outside work a few times in the last year. he's ok.
..yeah 'we are the gypsies ..coming to steal your horse'.. think Goodies tv show 
lol
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TABSenior Contributor
spent a few weeks with way younger guitar playing 'mr cool' guy last year as mentioned re guy met at work ..was funny .. got to see him get nose out of joint cos not enuf likes for posts on fb etc ..just 'cool' back at them maybe ..all people on the inside.. just depends how thick the persona is painted on lol @Former-Member
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