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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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Hi forumites

I have mixed emotions today.

Last night was boring. But still nice to see some folk I hadn't seen since Christmas.

Idk what's wrong with me lately.

I'm not myself.

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I'm really over this....

Idk..

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Unfortunately the nature of mh and also just being human is we cant be ok all the time. Sometimes we just have to ride out the crappy feelings @MDT
Maybe find something you like to do and spend time doing it today.

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Thinking of you and sending warm wishes @MDT xx

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True @outlander @eth

I am thinking of seeing my psych. But I'm a bit apprehensive to. I think it's because I have a tendency to try and shift discussion away from stuff. Usually I'm pretty open but lately I just don't know about it.. I feel like being too open can be a bad thing. But it's fine with a psych given that they don't broadcast it to the world.

I must say that despite the fact I don't like the job I am in it gives me something to do three days a week. It's payment and experience.

I am 26 and pushing papers on a desk isn't good for my self esteem. But then maybe it's okay to have SOMETHING than nothing.

There is that weird crap with my dad which just keep plaguing my mind so I need to learn how to block that out in its entirety.

Other than that I can't think of stuff which is cause for me feeling like this.

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@MDT hey Hamsolo, don't think fault is with you. Life is just like that.lol sometimes

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@Meowmy

You are always very kind to me and others here 🙂

Thank you

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..just a thought hams re desk job and self esteem at 26 thats age I quit doing same after 3 years. I used to take sickies to work on building sites.

so that lead to a lot of hard work a lot of unemployment, still had no clue, lots of missed oppurtunities that didnt return

versus job-for-life had that could have bought house with, might have been tough for couple years, but with inflation and rising wages would have paid off in no time, so missed the boat there, could have been set up for life and retired 10 years ago re not paying rent

anyway, if it doesnt feel right maybe its not. best to keep it while looking at options @MDT

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Indeed @TAB
Thats the plan.

My MH is taking a hit

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Maybe I will just book in psych

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@Ant7 @Adge @Former-Member @Owlunar @Queenie @utopia
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