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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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As much as I would like to go somewhere tonight I'm staying in. I simply don't khave enough money and borrowing some would make me feel depressed. Might sound weird but I just prefer that.
@outlander @Zoe7 @TAB @eudemonism

A friend has the bday tomorrow but they only invited me last minute which means little time to think about it.

The past number of weeks have been intense. I feel like I'm exhausted but feel bad for not socialising. Just need to unplug from the world and do my own thing.

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It is okay to unplug from the world for a while and do your own thing @MDT We can't be social animals all the time - it just is not sustainable when we have so much other stuff going on. Sometimes it is good to push ourselves out and about but we also need breaks to recharge our batteries - especially when anxiety is present. I am definitely a home body - like my own space and being with my fur babies. It was a big thing for me to go out last night and even though I enjoyed everyone's company I could have just as easily stayed home. I am feeling it today after a very long day and evening - have slept all afternoon after sleeping in this morning. I haven't done anything I planned to do today but that is okay - I still have a little time tonight nd tomorrow - not being hard on myself at all as I can only do what I can and sleep today was more important to be able to cope with the rest of the weekend and the working week ahead.

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look after yourself @MDT yeah I applied for a loan to cover gap payments in dental etc , had to be way more than I wanted at ridiculous interest plus fees, pay out figure had me on phone cancelling it. Turns out was interest reducing so not as bad as thought but will sleep on it before doing anything else. Need to to something soon and not trusting my judgement lol

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Pretty much @Zoe7
I'm on balance I think. Like to go out. Like to chill out at home. Get a balance really important to me I think for overall well-being.
Folks are out so sister and me at home. Doing BBQ steak and chips lol. Good to see dad though.

I find as I am getting a bit better with taking it easy on myself I grow up a bit too. Probably just gonna watch a film tonight.

Been for a swim too. Hope you have a good evening my friend.

You too @TAB

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@eudemonism @Sam3 @BryanaCamp

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That balance really is so important @MDT and sometimes it is listening to our body to know what is best for us. Today I have definitely needed a rest day and it has co-incided with a hot day so worked out for my benefit. Tomorrow I know I will have to do some things to get prepared for the week but hoping to have more energy then.

It is good that you have had a swim and taken it easy today - especially after your more emotional night last night - both body and mind need a rest occasionally

I am going to watch a couple of things I had recorded during the week tonight and take it easy myself. Hope you enjoy your easy night also

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swim sounds good @MDT days wasted away here

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Ok @MDT do you know what triggered this downturn?

For myself it's usually being alone.../lonliness... it really plays games with my emotions...

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@MDT maybe an early night?

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@MDT it don't sound like a bad social setting... folks? Sister? Family? Food? A movie? Some quiet time... a friends bday tommorow... sounds pretty good to me 😁
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