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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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Hey @MDT, I agree with what @Meowmy said. You are being really tough on yourself. Unfortunately realities of working life thesedays is a lot of uncertainty. You can be certain in your abilities though, and you're doing great. Like @TAB says, it's not a bad idea to have a back-up plan.

Apparently it's World Kindness Day today, so give yourself the gift of a little kindness 🌻🌻

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Have a hug yourself @Molliex and @MDT my son. Hope you are okay @Former-Member

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Heyyy @Former-Member 😸

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Hi there @MDT ... sounds like some very good self analysis there. However, provided you are honest with this friend of yours, then you are not stringing her along at all. Suggest you sit down and have a heart to heart discussion with her. See if you are both after the same thing/s, and take it from there.

@TAB Yes, things have improved here thanks. Nearest fires are now downgraded from emergency to watch and act. But at least we are not being rained down upon by burning leaves, bark and other fire debris. I am really tired and anxious from being on constant fire watch. But there are now areas further north in NSW and in Qld and WA going through similar ordeals with fires. Just hoping and praying for no further fatalities due to the fires. There was a fatality here on Fri/Sat, someone who left it too late to get out. So sad .. no home is worth a life.

Hello also to other thread regulars @Molliex @Meowmy @Shaz51 @outlander and any others.

Sherry

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Must be hard, sounds hellish @Former-Member hope you get to rest up a bit

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Hugs @Former-Member

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hi @MDT
I don't have much to add sorry but am listening

@Former-Member

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Yeah thanks @TAB , it was all pretty awful. Yep ... Im exhausted. Caught up on a bit of sleep today though, with an arvo nap.

Finally got NBN back up and running this arvo, after best part of 5 days down. Its a relief, I tell you, to have phone and internet operating again. A lot of people here were down though, coz of phone towers having been burnt. I guess with fires downgraded from emergency level, it gave techos a chance to go in and repair.

Thanks for the hug @Shaz51 ... you had family in one of the fire zones too .. is that in QLD? Pretty bad up there by the looks of things. Are they okay? Hopefully conditions have eased somewhat up there too. Sounds like you had a lovely productive day today. Including a really nice break and cuppa with your mum.

@outlander Youre a bit quiet lately I think. But I do have some catching up to do, so have probably missed a lot. Will attempt to catch up on your thread soon.

Sherry

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Not the same but short sharp storm here year before last turned into 4 day power outage @Former-Member

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@Former-Member

Thank goodness The fires are settling and the weather cooling. It must have been frightening and intense.

@outlander Hugs Bella. I heard you were on alert to with the fires. SO much going on.

@MDT Work and relationships are hard. There is no right way, just living day by day and making the decisions that you make. I am sure you will try and be fair and I hope work is fair in its dealing with you. As @TAB suggests, be prepared, but dont pre-empt an exit.

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