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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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Good idea - rest easy now @MDT

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I'm sure you'll do well @Sam3
You know your stuff.

I am just watching Game of Thrones atm. It's on foxtel. Then picking up mum and dad from station. They are back today for the weekend

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relaxing sounds like a good idea @MDT

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Pretty much @outlander
Just to take my mind off everything

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its early days @MDT take it easy

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@MDT, hugs my friend , with you all the way

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hey @Shaz51 Shazo how are you my friend?

Indeed @TAB Indeed. The Force is with us.

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For some of you I think this might be a bit too much for you to hear and I dont want to pressure you into saying anything or helping so don't feel obligated to respond to this.

But seeing as this has basically been a straw to break the camel's back I now feel like utter trash.

So a friend of mine who is at college to become a cop has just told me he finally had sex.

It's all just fallen over tonight. I'm erratic and annoyed at myself for not trying harder when it comes to relationships and girls. A lot of it I posted about on my other thread. The one that had "very personal" written on it.

Intimacy seems like such a problem for me. I only had my first kiss in 2017. That's the first and last time I did that. Since then? Been on three dates and none of them progressed from there.

I actually think something is wrong with me. Not even kidding.

I'm sorry to just blurt this out. But I'm just feeling really upset at annoyed at myself.

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My whole plans have failed and I'm sexless and cashless right now. I have managed to get a casual job for the next few weeks. But I'm just seeing that as a means to an end. Not permanent or worthwhile. Idk..... I feel terrible atm.

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Went from a high school loser to having a chance... To actually looking half decent in my appearance to becoming a half failed child and a loser yet again...
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