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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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All a life experience I guess hey @Zoe7

I was a bit like that when I was overseas in NYC. Was a hard day but I got through it. MH and travel can be hard I reckon

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Yeah I agree @MDT especially when we are not doing so well anyway.

You did such a great job when you went to NYC. I was super proud of the way you handled it all - especially being on the other side of the world with no support - you should be proud of how you dealt with it too and take a lot of positives out of how you coped under the circumstances

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We had a chat tonight about next year. I was a bit angry at myself though as I am nearly 26 in two months. I am still at home and I am embarrassed.
I love my family and they love me and aren't bothered by me being here.
I am just embarrassed because as I get older I meet new people and almost always they have moved out. They have found a place and a job. Even younger than me.

@Zoe7

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Eventually I found my element @Zoe7
NYC was too big and filthy. But I'm glad I went. Philadelphia and DC were awesome though. Poland was cool too.
It was a trip where I learned a lot about myself.

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I don't think it matters at all what age you are or that you are still at home and finding your way @MDT You do have a loving family that support you and that is wonderful. I know you get frustrated with them sometimes and your present situation without work but you are still doing everything you can to improve yourself and find your path - and that is all we cn sk of ourselves buddy The rest will come - feels frustrating at the moment but you do have passion and drive and that will serve you well when the opportunities open up for you

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If it was the opposite then it'd be a problem I guess @Zoe7

Atm it's just not a preferred option

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I just get a bit envious of people who do well.

@Zoe7

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Though not as envious as I used to be @Zoe7

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I hear that @MDT Sometimes we need to make the best of what we have and as hard as that feels it is what it is. I really do hope you find a job soon - you certainly deserve to with all the efforts you have put into finding work - it really is hard out there and I do feel for you

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Appreciate it @Zoe7
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