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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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LOL @MDT Aunty is better than grandma hahaha

Great that you were honest yesterday about your work history. You have had some experience in the workforce though and I am sure they would have seen what an intellegent, capable young man you are. I have good feelings about your future buddy - something is just around the corner for you and you so much deserve it.

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I wasn't meaning to be dismissive at all of your friend's situation @TAB - I have seen it happen many times over the years in workplaces I have been at - just hard to comment when I don't know the circumstances - either way it is sucky for your friend.

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it's alright @Zoe7 prob not the right place for it on here and I only know what Im told. just mentioned it after your mention of toxic workplaces re schools

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There are a lot of those workplaces in the education system @TAB The principal of the school sets the culture in how they act and what they implement - much of that comes down from higher above but it is up to the principal how that is all done. I am lucky enough now to be at a school where there is a supportive culture and staff pull together to help each other out. It seems it might not be the case for your friend though.

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Aww thanks @Zoe7
You are one cool 😎 cat

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he has been at the same place most of his time in teaching, he went from casual to permanent there. Anyway its depressing him and he wants to quit @Zoe7

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Enjoy your networking event @MDT and let us know how it goes later when you can

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Sounds like he needs a change in environment like I had @TAB - was a major thing for me to decide but so glad I made that decision ...maybe he should try for another school before he thinks about quitting - but I can fully understand that thinking - teaching is a bloody hard job and you do have to have your heart in it.

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yeah I dont know Ive been trying to tell him to quit for years @Zoe7 then he says its ok, but things just get worse and he's not coping sounds in or outside of work He's said some worrying things. Anyway .Next subject.

isnt Hamso @MDT doing well

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Yes @MDT is doing really well @TAB but so are you - you both have some positives in your lives and that is good to see.

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