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New diagnosis

New diagnosis

Hi all

My husband has had a diagnsis of major dpression only weeks ago, i have been trying to get him to some kind of help for about a year. Luckily he finally agreed to go to counselling with me & the psychologist picked it up. Took me another month to get him into a GP's office, where hes now being treated for a sleeping disorder with anti depressants.

I feel we really need to get him to a proper psych assessment & I'm giving him a referral form for an assessment to take to his next weekly GP appointment. Even if is a second opinion & the psychiatrist totally agrees with everything. The counsellor & myself think that Bipolar II is still on the table & the GP has only seen him in depression, not up & hasn't even talked to me. hes crashed a car which i found outwas not insured 7 then went & bought another that we dont need while it was in the shop.

As things are getting clearer slowly I have looked back in a dairy where I was so confused I started keeping a diary of his behaviour before i asked him to leave for a weekend after I found out he'd gone out of the marraige for "someone who listens". I have found that back in May he did talk of being in a bad place & not knowing how he didn't go to our local bridge & just jump off.

Now hes been refusing to come back, which to be homest is not a bad thing in the short term as I don't have to deal with his anger, blame & on medication rapid mood swings. I almost think his up is worse than his down. At the moment he has a down for a few hours in the middle of the day & has to walk around the block to get thru what is about a couple of hours feeling like that.

We are still in counselling once a week & he is turning up. i had to get medicated myself once i asked him to leave & that will go to Xmas. I'm getting stronger & negotiating his behaviour to come home (I ned to hear him tell the other woman that he wont see or communicate with her out of the office as hes said its over more than once).I've gone from crying 4 times a week due to his behaviour & anger and having to take sleeping medication to getting upset on the weekends & turning to do something for me.

We date on the weekends but at the moment most weekends something "goes wrong" & he doesn't turn up for the whole or part of that time.

Is there any way to get him to a psych assessment without a GP referral? I have told him that i feel we are in a bad or unsafe place I will need to make the call to our nearest emergency department which has a psychiatric emerency centre too but i wont do that unless I really need to & if hes not with me with the phone off i might not know.

Everything is a daily rollercoaster, i feel as tho I'm hanging on by my fingernails & jsut as I decide I can't hold on any more we take a tiny step forward!

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Wonderful news Mrs C and @justanother47yr..beautiful support you have been providing to everyone on the journey...
Mrs C..sleep well..your hard work and Mr C's hard work is beginning to bear fruit...

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MrsC your doing well.
Ille write to you how I feel .....like short notes....
He is dialoging which you must feel is very positive. I think it is.

So... Could you mention....in a timely manner.....something like responding : ....
For example....' I appreciate your conversation to me. It's been difficult for me because I've felt alone but your email conversations. Have brought love in my heart.

example : my brother was under a lot of stress one year and I responded to him.....'why is your talk to me like a monologue not a dialogue ?

Do you understand what I'm writing ? If you feel it's a 'terrible journey' your best writing that it is and why your there. It feels the best thing to do is pinpointing something to keep up the dialogue, to keep up the conversation.

Your a strong lady. Positivity is the only way forward. I was a teenager in the early 80s and it wasn't about positivity then.

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Thank you JA47, you are keeping my spirits up! I have responded to him to basically let him know all is the same at this end, i love him & am here for him. I'm not changing anything or asking for anything until he has seen someone & changed medication +/- modd stabiliser, its such a relief knowing he will be off this medication soon, so hard watching him just get more irritable & angry & full of rage, poor darling. he thought that was a better place than where he had been so was prepared to live like that! I called today to say hello & he was napping in his office - sleeping means hes down not flying. We have counselling home work to go for a walk together on Sunday, thats plenty for now & we are now weekly therapy together again. Thank you too Sandy
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