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Living and loving someone with MI presents relationship challenges and often others cannot see why we chose to stay with our partners.
Being mindful of not intruding on others stories I thought having a thread where we can share tips and encourage one another would be of value.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
thank you @Faith-and-Hope , @Former-Member 
golly hard at times
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
@Shaz51 @Faith-and-Hope feeling your pain. Expected to be be the problem solver but keep getting cut off at the knees and undermined when I try and implement solutions 😬 particularly regarding the children.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
very true @Determined , esp with my mum and my own self care
Expected to be be the problem solver but keep getting cut off at the knees-- very true my friend , soo hard at times @Faith-and-Hope , @Former-Member
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Hearing you all @Shaz51 @Determined @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member
Mr Darcy not at all helpful in relation to HWS, snoozed while I sorted it and then was up and taking over when plumber arrived.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
yes and hearing you too @Former-Member and sitting with you xx
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DifferentlifeContributor
I’m new to the site and have been reading the discussion where so much I can relate to. I have been dealing with my husband’s MI for over a year - depression anxiety and relationship OCD. Is has been truly horrible but things are stabilising with the meds and therapists etc now. Thing is I’m so exhausted from it all! I have been with this man for 37 years and he is not the same. I miss him and our life and just so sad that I know things will always be different. How do you accept that and stay when this MI has destroyed your dreams and plans too! How do you stop being so resentful and accept it? How can we be happy again when he is still so cold and distant ? 😩
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Unknown userMember
Hi @Differentlife
A warm welcome to the forum. I am Whitehawk the moderator this afternoon. if you need any help with using the forum let the moderators know and also check out the guidelines.
Congratulations on reaching out in this way and for having the courage to post about your struggles in caring for your husband. I hope there is some respite for you in the near future.
I am sure that forum members will be able to offer you support, information and connection.
Again welcome aboard
Whitehawk
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
hello @Differentlife and welcome my friend
letting you know you are not alone xx
sometimes we need to refocus on what is important in ours lives
not sure what your dreams and plans were that you are talking of my friend
there are some changes we can cahnge and then there are others that we can not change
we are here for you @Differentlife
@Former-Member, @Determined , @Faith-and-Hope , @Former-Member
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
thank you @Former-Member
I love your profile picture
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
Hi @Former-Member and welcome.
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