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Living and loving someone with MI presents relationship challenges and often others cannot see why we chose to stay with our partners.
Being mindful of not intruding on others stories I thought having a thread where we can share tips and encourage one another would be of value.
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
@Former-Member wrote:Thinking especially of the "long haulers" today. I know some of you are doing it tough at the moment.
And you @Former-Member
Thinking of you with the upcoming move and the on going preparations.
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Unknown userMember
What's happening @Shaz51 ?
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
ohh mr shaz is starting to crack up with me doing soo much with mum @Former-Member
I think i will just go to bed early today
I made a appt with he gp on wednesday and mr shaz is anxious about work -- we are ok i tell him , but !!!!
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
Hugs @Shaz51
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
thanks @Determined , sending you hugs too
we had a big day today in case it rains , soo got lots done but it does not help mr shaz , even showing him tonight is not helping
maybe tomorrow i can reassure him that everything is ok @Former-Member
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Unknown userMember
Sending gentle thoughts your way @Shaz51 .
Walking the dog today Mr Darcy talked about some difficult emotions. He has difficulty expressing himself and was able to finally articulate some hurts that he had in relation to one of his brothers.
Don't know what the answer is to the issue in question but thanked Mr Darcy for letting me know his feelings.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
that`s good @Former-Member 
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mr shaz does that too sometimes
sometimes our twins don`t want an answer BUT to know that we are there for them is what they need xoxo
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Unknown userMember
It has been difficult @Shaz51 there are hurts there, but I did feel the things he said and the way he spoke to this brother was unkind and unnecessary.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
yes and sending you hugs @Former-Member
also do you or have you relised how our responds affects our twins ( hope you know what i Mean )??
this is why I find it hard to know what to say at times @Ali11
question is for you too @Determined , @Newbie , @Faith-and-Hope , @Former-Member , @perseverer
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Unknown userMember
Yes, our response is important @Shaz51 . Childhood traumas are implicated in the aetiology of MI and the problem in relation to this brother relates to this.
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