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Living and loving someone with MI presents relationship challenges and often others cannot see why we chose to stay with our partners.
Being mindful of not intruding on others stories I thought having a thread where we can share tips and encourage one another would be of value.
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DunksSenior Contributor
@Carlachris
Your words are so supportive ... thank you.
I hope your ice cream was delicious
I like the idea of head phones and music
I tried to work with Mr W in the garden this morning but it is was not working so I came away and have spent the morning mostly on the phone.
It's finding a way to be in the right head space to do that rather than feeling hurt and breaking down
So appreciate your support
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Sasha_86Contributor
Thanks @Former-Member things are a bit settled this week, it ebbs and flows as we all know 😊. Hope all is well for you?
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Big cyber-hug for anyone who needs one ..... 💕
@Dunks @Sophie1 @Carlachris @Former-Member @Sasha_86 @Determined @fraser845 @Former-Member @Shaz51 ...... anyone I have missed ?❣️
Startibg to consider whether my mr.’s go-go-go-go all day every day could be mania ? Dunno ..... and dunno what I would do with that information even if the answer is yes or maybe ..... all I know is that we need to stay out of his way or he either becomes aggressive or goes into a melt-down, which is aggressive anyway ...... and the few moments in the day when he is not completely driven are otherwise quite civil.
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Unknown userMember
@Sasha_86
BPii symptoms in relation to hypomania have stabilised following a med tweak ... yay
Anxious distress has been debilitating for Mr D.
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Sasha_86Contributor
Hope you enjoyed the coffee and some time out @Sophie1 @! Saturday mornings are always my time of the week (when I can!) for me to just do me, coffee shopping, brunch with friends or just sitting back and sinking myself into a good book! Ive also been getting reiki of late which is so healing and helpful 😊
@Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Dunks @Carlachris What do you all find is helpful self care wise to keep you moving through the days and nights?
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Sasha_86Contributor
Small steps and small wins hopefully @Former-Member things stay stable for a little while for the both of you!
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
When tension gets high and stays that way for a few weeks, I do the plaza neck massage thing ..... and I include a lot of walking in my week (if I can walk somewhere, I do, sometimes in combo with public transport) .....: I take myself off for quiet coffees in (relatively) calm environments ..... and forget about everything else when I am in an art studio at uni for a couple of hours ......
@Sasha_86
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DunksSenior Contributor
@Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Sasha_86 @Carlachris @Sophie1
Well for me it has been spending time with my dog, gardening, reading .... so note to self ..... start doing them again lol
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
Great idea @Faith-and-Hope
I was only just talking to darling about a foot massage at the local shopping centre.
But then the thought of getting presentable enough to go back into town was too much lol.
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DunksSenior Contributor
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