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Living and loving someone with MI presents relationship challenges and often others cannot see why we chose to stay with our partners.
Being mindful of not intruding on others stories I thought having a thread where we can share tips and encourage one another would be of value.
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I would have thought with FIL still going strong, that would not be an issue @Determined. I have the opposite, my Mum wants to hoist stuff my way when we go to visit, don't want to offend her but I am not sure that I particularly want some of it.
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
That's what I thought @Former-Member but guess I was wrong. I always had a soft spot for this sibling and darling has always been 'dont trust him'
Point taken. Some of the stuff he wants is of little value but that us not the point. More that it appears he is more interested in what he can get than spending time with his dying mum. 😡🤐
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@Determined
People = more important than things. I will need to be very intentional about spending quality time with Mum when we visit. Mr D has organised a busy schedule.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
good morning @Former-Member, @Determined, @Former-Member
I don`t think my brain is with me today for some reason ,can`t seem to write what I want to write or say what i want to say
so sending you all hugs for today and hoping I will feel more me after
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
I agree @Former-Member.
I am encouraging darling to go visit mum by herself for that reason. I regret not spending more time just sitting with my dad rather than being busy and distracted when visiting.
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@Shaz51 perhaps a day to take things a little easier and let your brain rest. The frog picture was just gorgeous.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
that frog was on my hand @Former-Member, sooo tiny 
yes feeling a bit better now @Former-Member, being watching tv and having coffee
did go and visit mum and put her bins out for her '
having leftover tuna mornay tonight
how has your day been
Hello @Determined, @Former-Member
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@Lisek @Shelley there are a few of us "old hands" who are long term caregivers. Feel free to ask any questions you may have.
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LisekContributor
Thanks Darcy! I wondered is it ok to tell our loved ones that they effect us too... That their feeling down affects us. If I think about it it sounds like a bad idea but how can you keep everything inside you and not mention it? Will it cause more damage, will it bring them down more...make them stop talking to us?
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @Lisek
I think they know that they upset us , so myself i don`t think it helps our partners xx
how can you keep everything inside you and not mention it?-- that is why it is good to be able to talk to someone like a forum , or a someone you can talk to
will it make them stop talking to us?-- took a while for my mr shaz to open up and it took all my power to listen first and then to talk
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