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Living and loving someone with MI presents relationship challenges and often others cannot see why we chose to stay with our partners.
Being mindful of not intruding on others stories I thought having a thread where we can share tips and encourage one another would be of value.
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Understand where you are coming from in not wanting to travel alone. Mr Darcy lasted 5 days after going interstate once @Faith-and-Hope, where he was staying called an ambulance and he got taken to hospital where I am sure they would have kept him on a treatment order if it wasn't for his two brothers collecting him and bringing him home.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
We are not at that same level @Former-Member, or it would have been picked up by now ....
Mr.f&h comes across as eccentric to most people I think, but once you are within a closer orbit, it becomes at first confusing, then somewhat alarming .... as our recent visitors found ..... and that is as distressing for them as it is for us, with mr. oblivious to it all, or discomforted enough by questions about his diet and exercise patterns to make himself scarce sociallly to whom ever is enquiring too closely.
Of course, without medical evidence that things are otherwise, the dr’s office is his greatest performance arena, giiving me the understanding that he is aware at some level that his underlying behaviour needs disguising ..... the same with his chsp habit being kept secret.
These things either need to be ‘fessed up to by him, or discovered through medical results or misadventure ..... revealing them ourselves is unsafe on many levels.
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@Faith-and-Hope... 😵
How are you going @Lisek @Shaz51 @pMac @Determined @Sasha_86 @Raine
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Hi @Former-Member and thanks for asking after me a few days ago. So I havent responded before now. I've been a little quiet this week.
Hubby received some good news from his oncologist on Thursday. After a series of blood tests and scans last week, his oncologist has advised that his melanoma remains in remission. Phew! Scans are moved out now to 6-monthly rather than 3-monthly. It has really lifted his mood the past couple of days, which is so good to see. Unfortunately his Parkinsons Disease remains a major daily struggle for him however. But at least we can now concentrate on that, without having to worry quite so much about the cancer. The cancer will always be there, but its just not active at this time. Its possible it may remain that way. Hello also to @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 @Lisek @pMac Hope all are well.
Sherry 🌸
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
That is good news @Former-Member ...., anything that takes a bit of a load off is helpful for both of you. Glad to hear it ....
💐💕
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@Former-Memberwelcome news re: remission 😀.
Will need to be employing a few stress reducing tactics ... have quite a few things happening and I can see Mr Darcy is starting to find it all a bit much.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
That is good news @Former-Member
Hello @pMac , @Lisek 
@Former-Member, @Faith-and-Hope , very interesting discussion there , mr shaz says the strangest things sometimes , and I do worry when and what he will say .
don`t know what is happening there , one step at a time and covering for him is sometimes hard
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Unknown userMember
Hi @Shaz51
How are things going? How are Mum & Uncle?
@Determined
Are any family members staying on for a little?
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
No @Former-Member everyone went day after the funeral. Dad is looking more and more lost and Darling is only just hanging on at the moment.
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@Determined
Learning to live without a loved one = 😔
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