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Writing As A Form Of Therapy

Writing As A Form Of Therapy

Hi all,

I have found throughout the course of my life that writing has been a constant companion to me. It has provided me with a way to vent my frustrations, to grapple with the eternal verities of life that confound and delight me, to explore ideas and concepts, and to try to put into words the often chaotic moods and thoughts that result from having a mind that's a little bit odd...

I have written lots of poems, especially in the last 3 or 4 years, dealing with depression and bipolar. They help me to process and understand some of the things that are happening in this twisted little noodle of mine. As such, writing has become one of my main forms of therapy.

One of the best things that I find about writing is that it can act as a kind of mood diary. I can read things that I had previously written, and it will quite often map out where I was at during the time of writing. The words I spread across the page act as signposts of my progress, too. As my self knowledge increases and my life journey progresses, I find that it affects how I write and what I write...

Often, we do not see the thousands of tiny little changes to our selves that our life experiences cause over the years. It can be very helpful to re-read old writings, in order to see how far we have come, what we have improved, where we have fallen back into old harmful habits, and the things that we have learned.

The language that we use in our writings and in our thoughts and in our speech is very important. It can reveal a lot about our selves, our states of mind, and our moods...

That language, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. I believe that we attract certain kinds of people around us, and create (or at least influence) life situations based on our choice of language. It helps define who we are as a person.

Negative thinking, self-deprecation, self-hatred, these sorts of dangerous life traps are often revealed in our choice of words. So too are the positive things. It all starts with a glass. How we describe the glass and the quantity and quality of its contents, that's where language comes into it, and it can shape our very lives and the lives of those around us.

Writing... it is my solace and my main tool of self-analysis. It is my favourite form of therapy...

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Hi @Appleblossom 🙂

Yes indeed... facing the charging bull of our mental health issues is a tough thing to do, but very necessary...

This is why I often say that pain is worth it, and that pain is an important teacher and motivator... pain is an instrument of change...

Having this viewpoint about pain makes it easier to deal with...

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Thank you so much @Silenus

I get it, i think?? I can't think calmly at the moment because of my racing mind, thoughts and actions. I can't think rationally because I am scared of failure, scared of being judged and probably scared of myself too.

So to think calmly my mind needs to be calm; my thoughts need to be calm and rational. I need to think with my rational and wise mind not my emotional mind. @Silenus is that what you mean??

And i need self awareness - i do understand that i have depression, anxiety, BPD and have sufferred childhood sexual abuse. I do get that. I think the bit that I struggle with is I don't want it; i want it all to go away, i want my life back before all this came out - but the trouble is it won't. I have a mental illness and I have to learn to live with it and improve my life for the sake of my own wellbeing and my family.

But I know that along the way there is still going to be pain, hurt, tears, SH, anguish, guilt etc etc etc all different sorts of emotions. And maybe I need to go through all this to learn to be a better person; to learn of who i am today and forward and not the little child stuck in the 'victiim' role; the little girl that was abandoned by her parents.

I know there is still so much work for me to do with my psychologist. I want to get to the end of this dark tunnel, i want to see the light again. i want to feel free, be free and at peace with myself first and then the abusers.

As for my parents - well that is still too hard, too painful and i am not sure i can go there just yet.

Thank you for the hugs @Silenus

Take care xxooo

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@BlueBay wrote:

"So to think calmly my mind needs to be calm; my thoughts need to be calm and rational. I need to think with my rational and wise mind not my emotional mind. @Silenus is that what you mean??"

Yes, indeed, @BlueBay ... that is a big part of it...

But obviously the emotions need to be dealt with too, and rational thoughts come into conflict with emotions if we try and make it into a fight...

We need to be gentle to ourselves... be kind to our inner child... be our own inner child's loving inner adult parent...

Another thing is this... during the storm, there is not always time for calm thought... and yet, that is when it is needed the most...

It takes time to build up this calmness... it needs lots of practice... the insight may set you free in a moment, but hard work is required to make it stick...

It is a labour of love that I gently offer to myself... gladly given, gratefully received...

Hugs hugs and more hugs... sometimes all we can do is to weather the storm... to hold on for dear life... it serves us well to practice calmness when the weather is calm, for we need it most when the storm strikes and the night is darkest...

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Thankyou my dear friend @Silenus. you have helped me along my journey. hugs to you xxxooo

I'll let you know how i go in hospital.

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All the best @BlueBay ... stay safe... sending gentle healing vibes your way...

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Thank you @Appleblossom it means a lot to me to hear from you. xxoo

ps. yes the coast where i am is amazing, wouldn't trade it for anywhere else 🙂

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I am a big

Half Moon Bay

gel

meself

but the poor old Cerberus is sinking!

cheers @BlueBay

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This is the gift-curse of bipolar... to see unblinkingly... to feel unflinchingly... to meet extremes extremely... to be god and his devil in sweaty sheets intertwined...

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Make your inner space a nice place to live...

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This is an excerpt from the latest book I am working on...

"Never assume that you know what another person is going through... do not presume to feel that you know what another person is feeling... perish the thought that you know what another person is thinking...
"You will never know these things, so why presume to..? It is an insanity, and it needs to be calmly questioned...
"Insight will show the way to the pathless land of Truth...
"So... can I, knowing all there is to know about myself (and always learning more)... can I, self aware and still learning the incredible complexity of thoughts, feelings, emotions, moods, memories, dreams, and words that lie within my mind... can I possibly hope to guess right at the infinitely complex and individual things going on in another person's mind..?
"No... I cannot... you cannot... we cannot...
"We project our presumptions and our biases and our beliefs and our prejudices and our hopes and our dreams onto the blank canvas that is another person...
"We each play out the movie of our lives, and we are the star... projecting bits of ourselves onto the silver screen of the Really Real...
"To truly see the reality underneath the projections, we need to realise that we are the projectionist, and we can teach ourselves how to turn the projector off...
"Then... then we can see reality as it really is... the Really Real...
"Then... then we can deal with the reality of the Really Real without our projections of self leading us destructively astray...
"This is what I say, and what I say is my way... other peeps... you gotta find your own way...
"The wheel of the Self Evolution Revolution turns Eternally...
"Insight is the inner light that shows the way to Truth...
"Become a light-bearing seeker of Truth in the Darkness with me..."
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