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how to get friendship back with someone

SoSadSenior Contributor04 Jan 2019, 8:37 am AEDT

how to get friendship back with someone

Hi all!

i am not to sure if this is where to post this.

my ex was a really good friend of mine before we got together. We were only together for 4 months when his depression and anxiety got the better of him and he broke up with me. We tried to be friends but I found it quite hard and confusing. He ended up distancing himself from me. I didn’t do anything wrong except try and understand what was going on.

its been 6 months now and I really miss his friendship. I don’t want to rekindle anything with him. I have done a lot of work on myself during that time.

What I want to know is, How would I approach someone with depression and anxiety about working on a friendship after they pushed you away? I don’t plan to do this right now but perhaps in a couple of months. It’s also his birthday at the end of March so I was thinking that might be a way to break the ice.

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SoSadSenior Contributor02 June 2019, 10:02 am AEST

Re: how to get friendship back with someone

I have some wonderful friends that have helped me in the past and are helping me now. I decided not to make any further contact. I put myself out there and tried to make contact and that was rejected so there’s no point in trying to continue. It just puts me down. He knows where I am if he needs to talk. That’s all I can do. One day he might call and apologise for his behaviour towards me but I can’t sit around and wait for that either. It’s just hard when you still care about someone.
Thank you for replying 🙂

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Ali11Senior Contributor02 June 2019, 12:54 pm AEST

Re: how to get friendship back with someone

So glad to hear that @SoSad, you don't want to miss out on everything around you. Be kind to yourself, you have done everything you can to try and reach out and enjoy spending time with your friends. Do you have plans for this afternoon?

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SoSadSenior Contributor14 July 2019, 10:09 am AEST

Re: how to get friendship back with someone

Hi all

after a couple of weeks of sending this I got a response from him. It was only when I was assertive about it that he responded.

He apologised for his behaviour and isn’t able to explain it. He has also come off his medication and working hard to maintain that.

I accepted his apology but said to him that I’d love him to be able to explain any of his behaviour as it would help me. Seems silly but I don’t understand why someone would block someone off like he has towards me when he was the one that kept hurting me.

i also uploaded a heap of photos of his dog that I had onto the cloud so he could grab those.

I have received no further correspondence with him. What’s the point in apologising but continuing the same pattern. It makes his apology seem worthless now.

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