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Am i really that selfish?

outlanderSenior Contributor

Am i really that selfish?

Am i really that selfish and that awful?

ive been told 3 different things today and its not even lunch time.

1. i asked for some help to check in on pop while im away on the weekend and i got called selfish for it becasue my main priority should be pop.

2. Then pop joined in and agreed.

3. i got asked what i was studying, so i told them and their response was 'why, what are you going to do with it, youve already got a job and other commitments'

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BlueBaySenior Contributor

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@outlander i hope you can sleep well tonight. Take care

Goodnight lovely ❤️❤️

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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thank you @BlueBay i havent been sleeping because of either physical symptoms or becasue of nightmares.

goodnight @BlueBay and thank you for your support

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utopiaSenior Contributor

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Really need to not listen to your negative self talk tonight @outlander. You know it's always wrong. So don't listen to it today. Tell it to go away. Tell it to shut up. I normally tell my talk to shut up by using swear words. Works for me.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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im trying not to @utopia it is very much sucking me in though, ive not long had a shower which helped abit and now watching gogglebox which is amusing.
lol i can see you swearing at your inner critic

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MDTSenior Contributor

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is @outlander selfish?

Simple answer is no she is not.

Don't let those words get you down my friend. You are the opposite of selfish. You want to study, then go for your life. No one said you can't.

I hope that one day you can move out and do stuff for yourself. I hope that you can get away from the things that make you feel unwanted or unloved. For now my friend do what must be done to improve your MH. It will take time and you have forumites here to help you on the way.

You are wise and clever my friend. Never forget it 🙂

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor

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Alright then, if they are inside @outlander Can you put the negative thoughts in the naughty corner. Mentally tell them or limit them in some way. Put them in a cupboard with a lock on it.

Some time when you are feeling strong find a way that sits well with your own mental landscape. They might get out sometimes but develop a new cognitive habit, whether you argue with them or wrap them up in old newspaper and put them in a bin. Sorry my examples are out of date ... it may feel odd the first time but eventually ... it can become a powerful tool in mnaging the negative voices and eventually they diminish.

@MDT

sees you clearly.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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Thanks @MDT

Theres nothing wrong with your analogies @Appleblossom my thoughts have gone to bed for the moment thankfully.

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor

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That good.

@outlander

I had a weird but lovely night.

A fellow came around at 8 and he helped me get into some jazz, but I am very uptight, but he was very patient with me re the groove and imro. He is looking a for a serious jazz keys player, which is not me, but we had a rave for a few hours about Culture and the Irish.

I hope you settle better tonight.

but I have found the more I focus on it the worse it can be, so sending you a big long hug.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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Thanks Apple. Im not sure ill be sleeping to much. Having some physical issues tonight-see a question for the ladies thread.

Im glad your night was ok despite being weird. Sometimes patience is needed ao im glad he was with you, its easier to relax when others have patience-less pressure.
Thank you for the hug, i can feel it from here. Ill send you a warm squishy hug in return ❤
Im just playing solitaire atm, i was doing some puzzles

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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@Appleblossom ^^^^
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