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Not coping with severe depression

LeventiaSenior Contributor29 Oct 2018, 10:28 pm AEDT

Not coping with severe depression

Hello to all the beautiful people who contribute on these forums. I am a male aged 45 who has been battling with depression for several years. I have attempted suicide three times in the past and hospitalised on one occasion. My depression has been manageable with medication until a few months ago when the only close friend I had in my life passed away. I'm just not coping with being single, lonely and dealing with the death of my dear friend. I have a shy personality which makes it virtually impossible to meet females and build friendships. I'm also low on confidence and self esteem and believe I'm not good enough to be considered for a relationship. I have been on my own for my entire life and Don't know how much longer I can last being on my own and lonely. It's the first time I have shared my personal pain and suffering with anyone as I would find it too embarrassing and humiliating discussing it with a psychologist in person.

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JayneinpainSenior Contributor31 Oct 2018, 8:10 am AEDT

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@Leventia

I hope it is a good morning for you. Be kind to yourself today. Sometimes our emotions and our reality run into conflict with each other. We seem to end up feeling bruised and battered when that happens.

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LeventiaSenior Contributor31 Oct 2018, 9:20 am AEDT

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Good morning @Jayneinpain and thanks for your kind words. In return I wish you a beautiful day.

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LeventiaSenior Contributor31 Oct 2018, 5:54 pm AEDT

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Hello @Jayneinpain and all the lovely people who visit these forums. I just want to express how appreciative i am for the kind and generous help I have received. What you all do here really does make a difference. Just a small update regarding my progress, IDecided to incorporate some exercise into my daily routine in the form of walking and swimming. I do feel much better as a consequence. I would like to wish you all a beautiful night.

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JayneinpainSenior Contributor31 Oct 2018, 6:02 pm AEDT

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Hello @Leventia

I am so glad to hear your positive tone. I was speaking to my doctor today about how much the conversation with you had changed my mood yesterday when things were very dark.

I wish you a happy and peaceful night.

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LeventiaSenior Contributor31 Oct 2018, 6:03 pm AEDT

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How are you today @Jayneinpain ? I hope you have had a fabulous day.

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LeventiaSenior Contributor31 Oct 2018, 6:07 pm AEDT

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That's very sweet of you @Jayneinpain. You really helped me as well during my darkest moment. I honestly can't thank you enough.

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JayneinpainSenior Contributor31 Oct 2018, 6:08 pm AEDT

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@Leventia

My day has been greatly lightened by your friendly, helpful, support . When I saw the doctor, i felt i had a little bit more control of MY moods rather than just being manipulated by them. He and i agreed to change some of my meds and i am smiling again.

How about you?

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JayneinpainSenior Contributor31 Oct 2018, 6:16 pm AEDT

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@Leventia

our messages keep tripping over each other in the ether.

Today has been the warmest day since i moved to the island and it is gorgeous this evening. There are a lot of birds about and it is very peaceful.

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LeventiaSenior Contributor31 Oct 2018, 6:19 pm AEDT

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@Jayneinpain

I'm so happy to hear that I have had a positive effect, it really means a lot hearing that. I have also had my medication tweaked a couple of times in the past. I will cross my fingers for you and hope it will make a difference. I'm very encouraged to hear you had a smile on your face and knowing that just brought a big smile on my face as well. I had a relatively busy day but stress free which was nice for a change. Thanks for asking

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LeventiaSenior Contributor31 Oct 2018, 6:22 pm AEDT

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@Jayneinpain @It sounds quite spectacular from your description. I take it you prefer summer over winter?

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